Mindfulnesss

My brain is like a hamster well and an energizer bunny put together-it’s spinning 24 hrs a day always.

Quite simply it never stops.

I think that is what companies like about me and hire and promote me: it’s a guarantee I am thinking about them all the time. They are getting their money’s worth that is for certain. Over the last two years I have tried to slow down my brain a bit and stop it racing all the time. For a year now I take a very very mild medication for hormonal balance than that helps a ton. I also have a lot of rules around technology  and that helps a lot too to be more relaxed and not as connected.

However now I am ready for the grand finale of this and so is my husband. So we signed up for a really expensive Mindfulness course that is aimed at people with chronic stress or pain or both in lives. It’s costing is 1200 dollars and 8 Wednesdays without or family nights and family dinners. Also one whole Sunday off the lake and into a yoga studio.

It better be worth it.

(The jury is still out on that one).

But I am convinced we needed this so I pretty much forced my husband to do itJ

It’s one of the short term pain for long terms gain things. In time..in money..in energy. We took more than 100 hrs of parenting classes together over the years too..and it has paid off. Of probably anyone I know we are aligned as parents, still married and agree on almost all parenting methodologies etc..Clearly I think it was worth it. I know it made a HUGE difference in our lives, our children’s lives and our overall well-being as a couple and family. But it was hard at that time paying for it..getting a sitter for 3 hrs every Tuesdays. missing time out with our kids.

This course will be the same in the end. More than the content of it it is the alignment I am looking for. I want to speak the same language as my husband. My mom is in it too so all the better as all three of us raise our kids together. We all need to understand the method.

I think if you asked me what is the single most important advice I have for anyone parent in this world it would be to be both a short term and long terms thinker together at the same time. Master both. Be GREAT at both.Trust me if you aren’t life will catch up to you and be so much harder. Every decision you make has to encompass there here and now and 5, 10 and 15 and 20 yrs later . It’s the best gift you can give yourself and your kids.

Back to mindfulness course. It is a stress coping strategy well beyond yoga and meditation that are big component. But it is the philosophy of mindfulness that interests me.

Stuff like:

Everyone feels pain but suffering is a choice.

Understand that not deciding something is not a decision. And it definately won’t be peace you will get . Decide, accept and move on

Most people give up on meditation bc they say that can’t clear their mind. This course says each time it races, bring it back and that is just as good Like insomnia –if you can’ t sleep resting is much better than being up and about.

Stress less about the past and worry less into the future. Be in the present so much more often

Anyways lots of stuff I already know and need to be reminded so and put into practice and lots of stuff that I don’t know. This will be good. My husband is not convinced yet but that is fine. I know for both of us.

And what we need is a family coping strategy for now and forever. We will teach this to our kids-because really when the going gets tough the present is all you have. The smell of the soap-the feel of heat of the shower, the birds singing in nature, the snow on your feet, the embrace of your child, the little look across the table, your breathing . It’s all these moments together that make life worth living.

And this time? I intend to master mindfulness. And have my hubby master it too . It won’t just be a fluff thing for me…I am going for it.

 

Joy in the Midst Of

(beautiful picture should be inserted here but many issues uploading pics her lately...will do later)

There are moments you don’t ever forget in your life-that imprint themselves on your heart  and soul like nothing else. The birth of our children, our wedding, the days my kids got into their sports and dance programs at highschool..

Today I got to have one of those big moments. So did my daughter. In a BIG BIG day. I would even go as far as to say that today competed in specialness with the birth of my children! Because watching them being born is a miracle….watching that baby of yours grow up and perform at your work is just as much as a miracle.

Beauty was invited to the pharmaceutical company where I work to do a scoliosis presentation and dance performance . She was interviewed as a patient, I was interviewed as a parent, she did a dance in brace and out of brace to show that scoliosis would never stop her from her passion. She made her own video and showed it and named it “My Morning Routine"..she made up a game and led it with the audience and had prizes for the best boy and best girl.

The whole hour was a miracle.

My husband was there in the front row.

My precious colleagues on my team as well as many of my wonderful friends from Oncology, Medical, Finance. Caregivers from two major pediatric hospitals. Therapeutic clowns They were all there for us. For Her.

I was so nervous this morning I threw up twice. I present all the time literally and I have performed in plays many years of my own adolescence. Nothing ever makes me nervous. Today did me in.

Beauty? Calm as a Cucumber.

My company went all out in this one and had it professionally taped and edited. Camera crews there, microphones, lights..the whole shibang. It was amazing. She was treated as a true superstar. They made a huge poster of her too (above) and had everyone sign it and gave it to her for her room. The video will be given to her to keep and show at her school. The video will also be on the company intranet and submitted for an award potentially on patient experiences.

Words cannot express how I felt towards the company I work for today. An example of true generous leadership and utter work life integration. I was able to bring my entire self to work today and for the last 8 weeks and I am grateful. Today I was unable to keep my tears inside of me at many parts of my interview and Beauty's dance etc……I shed them with pride and security. They are part of me and part of this experience. I have never felt so proud as today to work for the company I do. They truly rolled out the red carpet for my daughter in every single way possible.

They brought both Beauty and I pure Joy

They brought my daughter fully back to life today.This experience will change how she sees the world forever. She now has a new lens to look through.

And HER…OMG HER. I am soooooo not subjective…but I think every single person in the audience agreed she was so truly beautiful inside and out. The grace the confidence, the talent, the beauty, the self-assurance. She was She. It was not MY baby anymore-she was she. 100% and completely her own person. Separate from me…because of me…with me..apart from me.

I looked at her every minute of that hour in complete awe. As if I never knew her. Who is this beautiful confident creature? Who is this person who makes a room come to life-whose eyes light up and whose spirit is joyous and free? How is it that her dances today were of this calibre? Where did this joy come from? This spirit that the whole room could feel so fully?

Where did she damn well get this talent and passion? Where does this spirit come from? Where did my attitudy-teenage, sometimes rude daughter go?

Who is this beautiful beautiful graceful confident human being? She brought the room down...and up..and down..and up. She was a true inspiration

My husband and I have never felt so proud in the parts of this that we may have contributed to. This hour made every single moment of education, discipline, contribution, books read, focus on confidence and autonomy and self assurance…worth it in every single way. We both agreed that since the moment out three kids have been  born our biggest mission was to create confidence in them...the ability to be ok in this big bad world...self assurance. Our highest and most important values for the well being, safety, success, and resilience of our children in a world where they would not have us there to hold their hands much of the time from  the minute they entered kindergarten. Watching Beauty up there today.....was magnificent. Like the finale of the longest lesson.

Who is she? She is our daughter? And the wonder my pharma company today gave me is  this glimpse and sneak peek into which she will be down the road. She showed them what she cannot always show us. She told them what she can’t always tell us.

They got the biggest piece of the pie today and I was there to watch them eat it.

What my daughter did today in that room may have even been worth her having scoliosis. She even said herself that it was worth wearing the brace 20 hrs.  day for 3 yrs.just to have done this. This changed us.

She got to have this day.

I got to have this day.

Together

Because of scoliosis.

Today for the first time since Feb 21 I felt pure  joy. Maybe for the first time ever.

I got to get my daughter.

And equally as important? My daughter got to get me. She saw me in my element at work. And I got to see her in her graceful flow as a separate entity form being my daughter. I got to see how others see her and she got to see how others see me.

And we saw each other..in the middle of it all. Thank you Universe for giving my daughter and I the courage and strength to make this all so beautiful. For understanding that this is what we must do.

Joy..in the midst of pain. Except today? The pain went away.Joy…in the midst of life. Beautiful breathtaking  life. Let me breathe you in.  You are mine again.

 

 

 

Today I get to Like Easter

 

I am having fun. We are celebrating today.

We can’t be too hard on ourselves because when you have a kid who is hurting-trust me it’s hard to enjoy anything. But last night she slept and this morning she smiledJ and that was all we needed to enjoy. There is a direct correlation for us. Health and happiness of child equals our happiness. I don’t know many parents who can experience that differently do you?

So I wish I could post the picture of my three chickadees with their Easter baskets they have had since they were tiny kiddies (two blue and one pink of course ). But Chase told me if I posted it…he would murder me. Not taking chances now that he is 3 inches taller than me.

Kids slept in until 11:15pm except Beauty up early from the first night brace of course. Hubby prepared this awesome and very difficult scavenger hunt for the big chocolate bunny each. Each had their own scavenger hunt (ps I am married to a saint).  Then the kids went in basement while we hid 55 plastic eggs stuffed with candy and loonies (20 dollars’ worth). We have a very big property at cottage full of forests and streams and hills and snow. It was truly beautiful to watch them hunt.

I felt so grateful for nature today. For me it’s not about Jesus it’s about the water and the sound of it, the lakes the snow melting, the trees and the crisp smell of spring .Easter is about renewal of seasons for me.

I renewed our cottage by cleaning up some of the chaos and Hubby is cooking up a storm of course for Easter brunch (eggs benedict and cheese dreams). Last night it was surprise dinner for Beauty and they made homemade lasagna and caser salad and angel cake cupcakes. I feel blessed. And full.

Today after Easter Brunch it is the traditional Easter walk as a family (traditional as in only happens once a year on Easter that they would agree to all walk with us I am betting). We go make a wish with our loonies in our stream which happens to be on someone else’s private property. They are all rule breakers like their Mom. And don’t go getting any crazy ideas that we calmly walk to the streams hand in hand-it is always chaos when we walk as a family (once a year)…since they were little they push each other and call each other names and giggle and be loud and be obnoxious wrestle and throw snow-and they still do ..Nothing has ever changed and nothing ever will. They are brothers and sister to the bone. We always want to get very far away from them all toward the middle to end of our walks (sometimes even the beginning)

 

And then it is homework after 10 days off school and CV writing to prep for a year or three from now –we can never plan enough for the future. Then tonight my Mom’s place for a nice dinner together for Easter.

Plenty of hugs from my Hubby and nice moments together as a couple who is having a hard weekend.

Our daughter may have scoliosis and it might depress us and depress her at many times-but we have a bounty of blessings to be grateful for. One of them is coming up this Thursday .  Hubby and I will need a box of tissue each to get though her presentation at my company. I am not sure I will ever feel as proud as when she will dance with that brace on.

Mostly I am grateful for all our ordinary days. The ones especially where the five of us our together. This family life and the ordinary days with them-are for me the best it can get. Nothing could ever replace it-not would I ever let it.  

And I continue to feel liberated at the cottage-as we walk today or any day I go for a walk I always bundle up in layers of clothes and shed them on trees along the way. A hat hear-a scarf here-a sweater here. Then I collect them on the way back. And we all wear ANYTHING here. Nothing matches-nothing looks good-everything is mismatched and silly and it has always been in terms of clothes here. Often we go to bed in the same clothes we wake up in. Today they all wore 10 dollar Canadian tire Billy boots and I wore my Hunters of course (with the ugliest coziest outfit I could find)

I love that here we are ourselves with no one to impress here. I love that we have no friends here and no one looking or caring. so different than our city life.

 

Tonight like last night we will say grace since a Sunday or a holiday, we like doing-it makes us feel good. For us I don’t think it is about God or Jesus (or maybe it is for some and others not).it is about gratitude and taking the time to acknowledge our blessings and our hopes.

Between the kid’s likely bad manners and full mouths we will pray for the three people this year who need it the most.  Beauty for health, Hubby for continued courage and strength and Didi for health. Once these three hopes are under control-we will be able to enjoy the holidays fully again

 Until then we watch and wait and pray to the forests and the streams.

Update on the Big "S"

This is a boing blog title as I feel I don’t have a creative bone in my body right now. This Easter weekend I am not much in the festive mood. I am trying to be though.

A Jehovah witness nearly cornering me in my own driveway today while I was talking three minutes for myself soaking up the sun and reading a magazine really did me in.This was really really really  not cool. Pretty please go away and never ever come back?

Tonight we are trying to find an Easter movie to watch and Netflix has nothing except Charlie Brown’s Easter.Pitiful Maybe I should have asked the missionaries to stay a little longer and teach us about Easter?

Both of these incidents have led me to the same conclusion. I am not in a mood for any holidays right now. Not even for chocolate-although our big Easter hunt is tomorrow.Hopefully tonight some festivity will make its way into my soul.

Right now we are consumed with scoliosis. I try to accept and make peace and be ok. I try to make it all beautiful. But it is hard. Really really really hard sometimes. It’s hard to watch this constant obstacle make its way into my daughter’s formally peaceful  and easier life. It’s hard to watch my girl at this already difficult age have to struggle to often both physically and mentally deal with this. This weekend I am in a bad place about it all.

We got the new protocol on Friday. The new night brace. I feel like no one around me understands. I don’t see how anyone really could remotely understand what this is like.

You see when you have a kid who has something like this-it just never goes away…it is like a heavy weight that you constantly carry…it totally sucks. While everyone around you seems to come in and out of happiness and sadness and obstacles and joys –just like you used to..you daughter will always have scoliosis and always have to deal with this. You are alone with this.

It’s hard enough having a 12 yr old girl with an attitude and very hormonal. Throw in a night brace that literally rotates the spine to 100 percent correction for 8 hrs.…and then who can barely sit up in the morning after brace is off  as she is so scared her back will break in two.. who has to get up and put on yet another brace for the entire day..it seems like too much.

And what has brought this bout of sadness on for me and she this weekend? Struggle. Change. The new protocol. Anytime something shifts it is so damn hard. We were finally getting usedd to the Spincor and now this. We know it is the right thing to do, but no one ever said that the right thing was the easy thing did they? And change with bracing is mental and physical torture for her. My heart breaks juts watching what it does to her.

 

She is such a trooper-but she has angry feeling about this. Who wouldn’t? She wrote us a letter the other day that nearly broke my heart about how hard all this is and how she can’t express it to us except for in writing. She can’t talk about the letter. Scoliosis has taken my already difficult daughter in many ways and hidden her inside of herself even more.

So Easter is hard this year. Yes it is.

Tomorrow we will do the Easter hunt….and have fun. We did a cabane a Sucre with Hubbys family in the sun. But my heart is with scoliosis and nothing and no one else.

And this week we will both go back to beautiful. Thursday my company has invited Beauty to come do a presentation on scoliosis, on the brace, she will show a video she made on the brace and do and in brace dance and an out of brace dance. I expect it will be one of the most memorable days of our family’s lifetime and probably the most beautiful thing I have ever seen.

But despite that today I don’t feel “that I get to have this beautiful” tonight I feel sad that “this is the way we have to achieve it”

Tonight is her first night in the brace all night. At the lowest tightness that will increase over a 10 day period. I feel scared. Of tonight..of the future..and everything that is ahead.

I feel scared that I will never ever again be able to truly give a rats ass about spilled milk like I used to.

Tomorrow is a new day

Keeping it Real.

Sleep is Now on List

This has been a long goal of mine. To make sleep during the week some type of priority. Maybe not top priority but a priority of some sorts.And I have never fully succeeded. Partially here end there. Inconsistent. Randomly. Not ritualized. Basically total fail.

Weekends have never been an issue- I could sleep my life away then. Weekdays? No time for sleep.

Until my Dominican Vacation that is. Soul keeper and I slept up a storm! Went to sleep by 11:30pm and slept until 10am most days. And we voted that we had to both sleep more at home. Why? Because we felt so much better is why. More relaxed, healthier, calmer. (I am sure the margaritas, beaches, no kids and no work also contributed)

Anyways since back now on my fourth week….I now sleep 7 hrs. A night most night!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Consistently! I actually choose sleep to other activities! I actually don’t resent it! I even wash my face and put cream on before falling into my heavenly slumber!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

And I love it. I hope I can keep this up. Will be harder with the warm either as so much more to fit into a day. But for now I am proud. I am listening to my body.

And even exercise too-my body and mind now crave certain types of it (miracle). I don’t go for walks in the morning anymore to hopefully shed some pounds or too look more toned (although clearly love that too if it ends up being an outcome!). I walk outside to feel the air and see the lake, watch the change of seasons and hear the birds. My body craves this in the morning now although many times no time to fit it in and I actually feel sad about it!

And yoga…the power yoga is more of an effort because tought physically but still like it a lot. But Restorative yoga??? OMG! Fridays 4:30-6:00pm I await. I even went today on a holiday…I think I must be losing my mind-or suddenly getting a mind after all these years.

 

I know when my husband in the last year has struggled with various issues I have always known the solution was so much simpler than it seemed. It’s been high time that I take my own advice and apply it to my life In 2014 I seem to be on that path-and despite many obstacles and major challenges very happy in many ways.

Make each day count. Make the sum of all parts beautiful. Sleep a lot…do things you like often…listen to what you like to do and do it as much as possible. For no real goal..Except to feel good and be happy. Life is so full of so many things that are hard-try to make the things that are not too hard easier. And the things that are hard try to make as pleasurable as possible (take your daughter’s friend to the hospital with you…have a ceaser wrap on the way back , stop for a smoothie, )

 

In my days now there are many simple things that add up to wonderful somehow by the end of it most days .There are no purposes to these things:

Sleep

Putting soft moisturizer on my face and my feet

Different body washes

Big hugs

Saying thank you

Texting and connecting with my BFFs and family

Writing this blog

Working, working and working (which I love)

Eating intuitively and listening to my body

Walking outside

Looking pretty

Wearing lip-gloss

Learning so much about medicine and hospitals

Being grateful

Forgiveness

Watching my children grow into young adults

Watching TV shows with my Hubby

Making tons lists and goals

Being able to let those I love live their lives and me not live it for them

Saying thank you as sweetly and as often as possible (lately three people have commented how I say “thank you”. It’s because I don’t take life for granted anymore. I say it a lot.

 

And much much much much more…

 

But I sure an grateful that sleep has made it on my to do list

It’s amazing as then I don’t have to hear Hubby snore all night as I am asleep first1

My Middle Man

 

They always say being the middle child in a family sucks.

In our family I have not personally found this to be true (although I am not the middle child so what do I know!)

I find each of our kids taking turn randomly of having it suck for them.

And each takes their turn of having the glory.

Usually it has to do with who is the sickest, most needy and who is having surgery that brings them the most attention and grace and glory.

Having a bad attitude, being alienated from the family, not caring about schoolwork or not  putting in the effort, and not being cooperative for chores often makes your life suck a bit around here.

But by the simple act of the being the middle child? Not around here.

Until last night.

When I forgot he existed.

Literally.

And then I forgot that I forgot he existed. Even worse.

It’s been a crazy week around here this week with both boys off school for the week and us working a lot a lot a lot. They are too old now for sitters etc..so a weird thing to be at work all day (and evenings too sometimes) and have your two teens rule the house. Friends in and out, sleepovers, dinners and watching games at cage aux sport until 11pm , pizza at Gigis with a bunch of friends ….others days quiet times at home computers, GTA, chores, relaxing, more chores . It goes on an on.

Well last night I guess my brain just decided it had too much to take. Too many kids.

So I forgot about one of them apparently.

One was home safely studying Science with her Dad. Check.

One I went to get in village with two new friends.He introduced one to me and said “He is gay”. Ok.

Then the others somewhere around 8pm I knew was out at Cage aux Sports watching the game and paying for his own chicken wings with a bunch of friends and I vaguely remembered a mom saying she was bringing him back here.

And then I forgot about him.

There is was 10:30pm and I was in pjs and falling asleep to the sounds of Modern Family and Hubby says “Is Bear coming home tonight?”

OMG! Bear!

So I text him. And he did not text back right away and I forgot about him again and fell asleep on the couch. OMG Worst mother of the year award pls nominate me???

He came home 40 mins later and I just pretended all was normal and fine and dandy. That I had been anxiously waiting for his arrival (given that this was the first time my 14 yr. old went clubbing!!!!

Anyways last night being the middle child must have sucked? Or was he happy that I am so confident in him that he does not need to be on my usually somewhat neurotic radar? Who knows how he feels?

And unfortunately I won’t have time to ask him as I have to get to work-while he will sleep in until 11am.

He knows I love him so much I could eat him up. My middle manJ

Carved out Corner

 

Carved out Corner

For the last three years I have been researching..asking questions and getting curious about the teen years..from the experts. Books, keynotes and contacts who have something to say on this subjects.

And I intently listen.

Now with a 16, 14 and 12 yr old I am starting to consider that I myself know what I am doing to some degree. Not an expert yet but threading water well enough. So lately clients, colleagues and friends have been asking my advice on the subject. And one question I get a lot is “How is it possible that your teens still want to come to the cottage and spend so much family time together. How do you make that happen?”

Well it is simple the answer and not so magical. But it certainly works magically:

We force them.

Sometimes force it not needed and sometimes it is not.Certainly most weekends the expectation is that they will come with us and that We will spend a lot of family time together.

And if you ask me what has..is and will be the single most important things we have done as a family it is to protect these sacred cottage times together..with our lives. We go to any lengths to protect the, Miss Sports event, miss friend events, miss work events, and miss anything really.

And trust me it’s not a cottage you need. We are blessed to have one (blessed with the cottage, the mortgage and the work that also goes with it!!) But certainly blessed nevertheless to have this haven to escape to every weekend. But these carved out corners can be achieved by dinner table chats, church going, camping in the backyard every Saturday night, and turning off all phone for 48 hrs..You name it. Carve it out and it is yours. Make your weekend count for you and your family.

 

The trick is to have a routine every weekend that does not include the kids friends…where you are not running around carpooling and chauffeuring…drug and alcohol free for the kids Of course….phones not ringing….minimal exposure to texting and Facebook (although in the last two years we allow a few hrs. at night of this) and lots and lots of free time to work together on the house and play together.

We mostly stay in town Friday nights now as out 16 yrs. old always has plans now on Fridays so it is the way that works. So often we come up Saturday mornings. And our Fridays nights are so much less connected, so much less fun and so much less good than the rest of our weekends. We all seem aggravated, disconnected and a bit alienated even at home. I didn’t know why. We are all trying to achieve things, do things and connect-often not to each other. We come up to Trent and literally all the tension dissipates. Often we eat lunch at the way at McDonalds or Tim Hortens and I see the stress melt away. This family adores each other. We fight-we scream- but we all adore each other.

The last two days were amazing with the five of us here. We put all technology bans on from 12-5 both days and made everyone spend it outside. With three teens this is not an easy feat! Again force is our method. Trust me it is totally underused.

They resist and then they enjoy. Chase came for an hour walk with his Dad and I. We threw snow in the streams and watched it melt. We made marks in the snow with sticks, we chatted, laughed and he confided a ton in us about his future and what he sees it in. Breathing the spring air was heavenly and so is being so close to nature. We looked at wood peckers and geese.

The other two kids took a Jacuzzi outside and rolled in the snow then got back in. Bear went and bought a cheap circus toy and spend hours on the gallery playing with it. Beauty and her Dad set up the trampoline where she flipped and flipped to the beat of the music. I read on the sunny deck and then Chase joined me in the sun with a real newspaper since no IPADSs allowed. Hubby putzed around and had fun and picked up garbage and sticks.

At night here they have conversations together because we again ban computers and phones during dinner preparation. I overhear beautiful conversations between the boys:

“Isn’t it weird to think one day we could be old and die?”

“Ya totally scary-that is why we have to live a lot now and have fun”

“Ya fun is good but safe fun because we don’t want to die early-because living is really  f….g good,. I like living so we better not mess up and do stupid things eh?”

“Ya totally-that’s why the other night I didn’t try to pass out at the party-it is dumb”

Ahhhhhhhhhh….music to a parents ears!

And then all the competing and sibling rivalry and bickering that truly get on my nerves but I can handle given the perfectness of the other moments.

Then today rained on and on but we went out to walk anyways and we did in the forest-all five of us. Then we went to the bakery and each chose our favorite pastry or sandwich. Then walked back and Chase drove us back to the cottage! A first. And I felt great joy again that these children, now teens are our people. We love them. Carving out space for them is so important.

I love watching my daughter wrestle with her brother and beat him. I love hearing their laughter in the game there are playing right now with their Dad. Selecting the menu for the weekend and begging for red velvet cupcakes for dessert,. I love the conversations about politics and sex and alcohol. Their curiosity now about adult issues and the exploring we do around them. Yes the conversations are laced with some swearing more and more often here and there trying to be cool-yes that are rude and often reject our point of view..Yes they are lazy and leave their underwear on the bathroom floor all the time.

But…they are here with us. And that is a miracle. And even if we have to force them they are here. And we will make that our mission if it is the only one we have.

Neither of us could ever stay home ever. We adore our work and just being without the kids five days a week is good-they would drive us crazy if we stayed home in the week truly. But we have carved out some damn good family time over the years.

Today we all slept in until 11:15am! No hockey practice, soccer, ringuette or baseball could replace this for me. No extra work on the weekends in the office could equate with these moments. Nothing is more important and these quiet days prove it to me over and over and over and over again.We are lent our children for such a short time of ours and their lifetimes. And I intend to make the moments count. All the good-the bad and the ugly. All of it

Find your space-your place and your corners with your kids and hang on to them as long as humanely possible. Do everything you want and intend to do in the life you have right now and don’t regret later what you could have done.

Teens rock. And anyone who doesn’t think so has spent too many of the Friday disconnected nights that if teens aren’t forced to leave…become the family normal. If I had to live every weekend like many of our Friday nights……I would think the teens years stank.

But here with this carved out corner we have made-were we change into our old cottage clothes and leave our egos at the door. Here where we walk in nature and hold hands and often walk with arms around each other which they would never be caught dead doing in the city…I can honestly say that life…is good. Really really good.

 

And today seeing all three now all taller than me walk in front of us Hubby turned to me and said:

 

“I don’t want them to keep getting older. I want to freeze time. I will miss miss them desperately”

 

And I gave him a look of understanding that said I could not agree more.