Fall 2018

Hmmmmm this blog is really really taking a hit lately . Using it only for recording keeping purposes until beauty graduates from highschool this year in June 2019 so can record her prom and her big surgery and be able to publish her at grad on top of a printed blog book like her brothers had . It’s only fair our beautiful girl gets that too !

Recap of what is going on this fall of 2018 as there is lots )

Chase in second year jmsb ans in case comp which he loves . Very very entrepreneurial guy and lots of talks about his future etc and trusting him to do what is right for him while strongly strongly pushing university and finishing . He will I am sure but a bit of a battle lately . Will be interesting to see where all ends up and i bet in the perfect place . Have so much confidence and trust in this guy to make the decisions that are good for his life

Working also on him being a good roommate as a 20 yr old living at home . Gets worse and then better and then worse and better . Overall he makes us so happy and all works out but hard letting go ! No more family dinners as courses all evening of the week ! New thing is having a thing with Spanish girls ! Taught himself full Spanish this summer and looking for opportunities To practice verbal and non verbal o guess !

Bear - loving second year cégep and did some great volenteering for big  TED . Waiting to hear answer for awesome trip to Belize for marina bio course . Uni applications this year . Huge year for him !!! This kid is sooooo organized . As chase likes to say “ he has his shit together this boy ! “

He totally does . Becoming easier and easier to live with and less stubborn and really finding our way at this age that can be tough to navigate as parents . And bear is in love since sept 2018 wish a lovely girl sandrine he met a year ago . She is a sweetie and they seem very happy to have made a decision to move forward with their relationship

Beauty

Ah beauty ... hard hard hard her growing up . Hard on family life . She is a tough teen . Listens and obeys rules for sure thank god but doesn’t show us love which makes me want to cry all the time ( and often I do )

I don’t give up . I know she is worth fighting for and I will but man she does not make this easy

In solo compétions and will do 3 before surgery we hope .

Teaches hip hop at h4l . Takes jazz tech

Studies more and more as opted for high math and sciences and struggles but persists a lot ( and complains a lot )

Over Simon thank god ! Seeing a new guy and goes on dates

Surgery is around Week of March 25 and will have medical exemption for last semester . Some big stuff coming up for her and cégep applications too

She and Cassie coming to Turks with us in 3 weeks !!

Us - work work work

Have never ever ever done this on our lives . Together we work mornings weekends and evenings all the time . Together . All new . 10 month some . 6 months a lot . 4 months massively intensely .

Book is launched and got the title of more than could have hoped for 1 international bestseller ! Worth every effort !

Company launches on a few days oct 10 and website is amazing

Sweat tears and massive amounts of work

If I could guess ? My end of 2020 ( 2021 ) at latest this will be a millionaire dollar company :))

I work to get what I want and this will be no exception

Hubby and I in a good place ! He is stinging on many very visible events for choir ( televised , Justin Trudeau coming etc ) and we spend tons of time alone at cottage which is quite fun ! Miss kids sometimes but usually have Friday night dinners and some good times planned out carefully . A new stage and a good one and far better than thought what would be . We are doing a slow withdrawal from family life so empty nest won’t be such a shock !

That’s it for now . Signing off to read be copy have in my hands of my book ! So very very proud

Winter Pics

have been living by these words and bi part of new book I am almost finished

my precious mentors twin grandaughters come home from 7 months in NICU!!!

I love my girl:)

I love seeing cousins together

Didi love at the dance show

lately everyone commenting how much we look alike

Family time!

Boyfriend time

Friend time

New glasses

VP Events campaign!!!!

At Shriners at least with a smile

Guitar from Didi!

I love having a teen daughter!

My darling:)

My view as I awake)

We made a gym in basement! We share it as Beauty dance studio too

new haircut

AmaBella my niece turned 18! we sent her a pandora bracelet

Consolation candy after Shriner appt and bad news

Bday party for Hubbys buddy!

Valentines morning

last day of Accutane

Mama Bear feeling a little better!

Bear cooked a three course organic meal that was so delicious

Day we decided to work together on new business!

Hubbys Brefeuf girls

Hubby and BDay boy

I will launch a new business horray! and keep my other one too!

Love the weekends at cottage!!!

Business partners

Beauty and her ski group she taught all winter

"The Big Three' ETC...

Things going on around here lately ...

I feel like lately I can't find time to write my blog . I am truly juggling two careers right now as I set up for a new full branch of my current business . It will be a very hectic ( but worthwhile ! ) year 

I have honestly not felt this type of passion about work in my life and have barely started . And that is saying a lot as I am often passionate about my work and career . This is big stuff ! Can't wait to reveal it all soon 

So blogs will be a bit of a brain Dump for now as I find my way and find a way to manage this all . Pics will usually be in separate posts too !

Things I want to remember about the Big Three ( my new name for them from this is us show ! ) they have always been like three triplets to me although 18-24 months apart . Have never seen a show more like so elements of our own family :)

Bear  and getting amazing r score and him screaming from his too.  and our  family dance !!

Beauty opening blog book and saying next year mom will blog about nicaruaga trip   and my solo and for sure I will be on front with my surgery !!! Loves how she pretends doesn't care and LOVES it . So much teenage pretending but sending me clear messages " don't forget me mommy ! " 

Chase telling me that he couldn't make  family dinner for valentines in such a respectful  adult way . He is growing up !

Bear just finished poisonous awful accutane for 5 months ! He survived ! Clearer  skin for sure although lots of scarring of course but so much clearer and looks amazing ! So many awful side effects and limitations and so glad off of it now .  Cross fingers doesn't need second treatment !

Chase and I talk business all the time now . All the time . I adore it . Takes a ton of my time as he texts mid day and wants connections for internships etc but I always told myself I would a totally amazing available mom to them as teens and young adults ( even more than when little for me ) and I am trying to stick to that commitment ! I love it and love this new part of our relationship 

Beauty competition season begins today ! Back and forth gatineau all weekend as has team and solo 2 different days ! Meeting Bruce and Terri for dinner and they are coming :) Having Swiss chalet the other night with our girl ! Can't wait to watch her perform ! Especially knowing may need to be last year because of surgery makes it very emotional for all 

Bear made us a three course dinner one night for a course he is taking in humanities on food . All organic and delicious ! Brie and walnut maple syrup roasted , an amazing Chicken pasta and apple crumble ! So like his dad and neat and tidy and all organized and yummy . She was so excited to serve it and we were more excited to eat it ! Beautiful dinner . We joked that organic food makes our family nicer 

Now about us :

Starting new company ! Mine but hubby actively involved ! A sister company to my existing company . Will be launched in September !

Watching over 50 hrs of training materials to learn how to do this right and going to Ottawa for private mentoring for marketing expertise etc . 

A bold career move for sure !! Fun ( and sometimes complicated ) to share  with hubby . Partnering a lot in this! Also it is preparing for in a few years living abroad in various countries once a year for 3 months at a time and being set up to work virtually there . I can't believe I am doing all this alongside a full career . Overwhelming but also feels amazing too 

Had great celebration dinner with bear and me and hubby and Didi our for fondue as accutane finished celebration . Was so fun !

Few trips coming up :

Miami for 4 days at Easter all 5 

Bali for 2 weeks june me and bear and hubby 

Me and great friend in NYC ( she is there for business and meeting her for a wild 24 hrs ! )

Beauty and humanitarian trip in summer to nicaruaga . And bear maybe next year Kenya !

Also business travel for me to Calgary 

Lots of fun summer plans ( sister savvy and brother and his family coming to Trent  . ) Lots to look forward to upcoming 

That's it for now ! Cottage winter season over so weekends some at cottage and some home so that I will miss as love our winter and time there 

Bye bye !

My Word Of 2018

My word of 2018

 (warm) MASTERY

For years and decades I have been a lot of things in my career and really amazing at many parts , really good at others , good in others , good enough in other areas and not so good in some areas

No one really notices anything but the super amazing parts and those have been the parts that have allowed me to climb up the career ladder quite quickly and also turn my part time company into a full time successful business almost overnight .

I have been thinking more and more that I want to focus mostly on the things I am brilliant at . That make my business remarkable . The things that I was born to do and born to share . That obsess me and engage me and make me passionate.

And I do focus on these a lot . More and more but not enough

Not nearly enough

And why ?

Because it feels comfortable to be a jack of all trades as I am in high demand almost always because of it .

Then what ends up happening is because I am always busy in my career I end up not having enough to time to develop my «  purple cow «  ( Seth Godin )

I end up doing some really remarkable stuff and some more mediocre .

I want more remarkable and I know how to get it . There are just not enough hours in a day

I want to master

And I will in 2018

( what’s interesting about this word of the year is not sure I have ever chosen one that is So explicitly career focused . Mostly it is things in my family or personal life I want to improve in or master . A few years ago after realizing how much energy I was putting into family and personal relationships and not necessarily feeling as fulfilled as I wanted to in giving so much and not necessarily receiving as much ( also to do with my kids stages of life ) I decided that there would be a time and a place for my career more and more . And I have carved out that time and space over the last few years but want more and more of it . Not at the detriment of my relationships but lovinging alongside them . For years and years I prioritized my family and close relationships more than career and in most ways loved doing this and am happy I did . This stage of my life ? Not sure that same lens fits . I have so much to give and has occurred to me over the years that I may need a wider larger audience . I give and also expect a lot . It s time for me to move out into the bigger world . And master .

I am so excited for 2018 . Like really ? This will be be very very exciting for me

After I wrote the word mastery I realized that it was missing something and so added the word warm even though that is cheating for having a word of the year 

I realize I will never have to remind myself to be driven and results driven . I could do that in my sleep literally . What I have needed to remind myself so often all these years and have heavily worked on are all the soft skills and human touch like nurturing and being kind and patient and being present and letting go of control . These things come so much less naturally to me but I have improved so much and mastered them on my own ways through my attention and awareness to them and my focus . They have always been my words of the year .

So I don't want to forget them at all as the minute I do I see s difference in my life and not a positive one . I don't like myself as much and I bet those around me don't either .

So since my word of the year is results driven and career focused this year it's gonna be a warm mastery and to me I know exactly what that means 

How did I fair on my word of 2017 ? EXTRAORDINARY

Well it seemed very much in jepordy just 13 days after I wrote it . Very very much so . There are certain things I can write on this blog and certain things I cannot share and this is one of them . 

Let's just say my life and my family's nearly  fell fully apart that week as we know it - and by laser focus and total commitment and reaching out to people we knew could help us - we remained happier than we have ever been and even stronger than we thought possible .

Emotional vulnerability to the max ( thanks soul keeper for introducing me to this concept in life and holding my hand patiently as I practice it )

So ya . I would consider that pretty extraordinaire . 

My mom commented after that whole fiasco that she felt so bad for me that I had chosen that word for my year and just mere days later I had a very unexpected unthinkable situation 

This is where my moms thinking and mine differ : no situation or person or circumstance will rob me of my word . Never . Extraordinary as my compass is what got me through 

Besides that I was able to at least double my business , survive and thrive three teens in the house , finally finally have massive breakthrough in my relationship with my daughter , continue in my path of not being co dependant with my mom ( still lots of work there ) , write half of my second book that will be published in 2018 besides working full time and really understand  and feel and practice the meaning of emotional vulnerability in close relationships something that was always attractive to me in the past but that I didn't really experience fully . 

This way of being really was a game changer for me and I will never go back to any of my old ways in this . It’s here to stay

Less extraordinary have been : having committed to health and fitness for a full year and then abandoning and now back again but still inconsistent . Eating great during week and way not so great on weekends and have never figured this out and feeling it a lot in my energy and around my waistline  . Being so so not domestic around the house  it is literally a joke at this point . Not being as Social as I want to be . Still worrying about my mom all the time and her health even though there is nothing I can do to control it  . Not being able to control the fact my daughter may need spinal fusion , another struggling with severe acne and the horrible  side effects of the medication he needs to take as a last resort . Being bitchy a lot of the time despite my best efforts . Feeling jealous and envious for no apparent reason and not being able to get my kids to do their to do lists when I am gone ( or sometimes even when I am home ). Also still a challenge for me to let my kids go on many ways . I really want to hang on but more and more with the eldest realizing I cannot

Yet I am very self aware I think and know my strengths and my weaknesses ( I think ! ) and constantly strive to work through them and improve then . 

I am a constant learner and constantly in motion in life and in love and always looking and seeking feedback to get better and improve

I give the truth and I expect it back . And I put that truth into action 

And so yes 2017 I was extraordinary . In ways I had never even planned or even knew existed .

I have realized that the more I surround myself with extraordinary people the more extraordinary my life becomes and the more in tune with myself and life I become . I have to keep opening myself up to new experiences and new people - something I have always resisted in some ways and tend to stay within my comfort zone .

Here to continued extraordinary and warm mastery !

Welcome 2018 !!

I am A Writer

(written 1.5 weeks ago)

It's no coincidence I bet that yesterday I really got into some serious planning of my next book with an editor 

It's no coincidence that the week I had a massive talk with my mom about my life where I had the courage to discuss and ask questions about my childhood and adolescence that weighed heavily on my mind .

It's no coincidence that the week I went to a therapist I had not seen in 2 yrs for one session and poured my heart out on a very specific trait about myself I don't like to think about , don't like to admit and have not talked about to anyone before.. And want to change 

It's no coincidence that I reached out to an important person in my life that has kinda left over the years with no ryhme or reason over the years and whom I miss and I confronted this week and they got back to me finally with a time to speak 

All of these " coincidences " within the same few days ended me up in the middle of the day by the lake on a bench where we scattered my dads ashes 6 yrs ago looking out to the water and sky as I often do . Writing . Writing my next book .

As I said in my eulogy to my dad which may have been one of the hardest things I have done to my life to date - giving his life beauty and meaning while at the same time openly admitting that he and I had a very difficult relationship for many many years and that I had basically abandoned him for at least 5 of them.

I ended this heartfelt , complex , sad and beautiful eulogy with the words . 

" It is now time to put pen to paper and allow music in my heart "

And I have slowly .. And surely .

Yesterday at the lake - it all came together . I accepted and realized that yes ... I am a writer .

 I am already a published author . But this next book ? It's mine completely mine .

It may be the first time in my life that I do work that is really really really hard . It's no low lying fruit I tell you to write your own book . With no clue or care about the outcome . No goal of achievement really ( although we all know I have big plans for it but is not the main driver of writing it )

It could even be considered one of the first times I feel completely passionate about something I am doing for work . That may sound Surprising given I have an amazing career and do extremely well and do so much of what I love in my career ? Trust me it's Surprising to me too . I love my work a ton on so many ways . More than many ways . I adore it .

But this writing ? This is what passion feels like . ( I guess as not sure I have ever felt it ! ) it's a bit of an obsession , combined with adrenaline . It's waking up early with thoughts swirling in my mind all around , it's planning out my day in accordance of 30 mins I get to write , and it's feeling a deep satisfaction within my soul for no apparent reason ; it's doing something I love without much rhyme or reason and not too much of a plan ; its knowing I have words to get out of me without understanding why ; it the feeling of doing something in the grey vs within black and white . It is the feeling of even going a bit crazy actually. 

It's Whatever and Whenever 

It's finally .. Finally . Feeling free 

And most importantly feeling free to  identify with being a writer .( anong many other things ! ) 

And feel the thoughts  my dad might have  felt as a writer too . And to allow his ashes back into my heart in small and simple ways . To allow myself to identify with him in tiny ways; to identify as his daughter and not only my mom's girl. It's opening my heart up to the possibility that I had two parents who raised me and letting those feelings and possibilities flow through my veins.

Only because I am free now. I felt and I spoke.

By the lake 

The Art of Comfy Travel

I have had different relationships with business travel over different stages of my life 

At certain times when kids very little and demanding was a treat and an escape if not very frequent . In other stages of kids being in middle school ,I resented it as clashed  with family commitments and school activities , and now at its all time high I usually quite like it or at the least am very neutral about it and barely even notice I am in planes hotels and airports quite often 

It also helps that now with consulting they are billable hours as don't get paid for travel hrs  ever but do get paid for any work I do during that time and when you are pitching and presenting to big groups like I do it is certain that when you are not sleeping on the plane you are definitely working ( or blogging ! )

The hotel makes a huge difference too . We are spoiled in Pharma and have awesome hotels but when not a Pharma company booking .. hotel experience is not always great . The hotel and surroundings make it or break it . Last week in Atlanta I got bumped from my hotel bc over double booking for hurricane and let's just say the " hotel " reminded me of a very shabby nursing home . That was fine though as with hurricane all was chaotic and I preferred to have the poor families who left their vacations and homes with family have the coziness and luxury instead of me who was working and going straight to bed anyways 

I  much prefer the 5 star with the heated pools ( and I don't feel bad saying it given that business travel is demanding especially internationally  when Peru or Russia so I feel  very entitled to my comfort) 

It's fun though when not too much and I have my certain rules when I business travel :

-I always try new foods that make that place unique ( is it my fault that last week in Atlanta I had to eat all fried food for southwestern cuisine? Fried green tomatoes and hush puppies and peach cobbler made me feel slightly nauseated but were yummy in a unique way )

-I always buy a little souvenir for myself . I splurge on a nice pair of sunglasses once a year and on a normal month a pair of spanx tights or a new book 

-I also use the time to have great texting conversations with my three kids and hubby and mom and friends and get caught up . This trip was cool as hubby in Peru and so we texted like crazy in transit 

-I never bring luggage to check if under a week and have a very stuffed carry on ( lost luggage too many times ) I am now an expert 

-I also try to get on plane in first 20 mins before people to ensure enough in overhead bin for luggage . They never ask me why I get in line in the wrong order . I am so not a rule person and has led to alot of success for me! (don't read this part children)

-I always have a bathingsuit and a cute dress as you just never know what lies around the corner for fun if a free moment for leisure . Rare but can happen and I like water 

-I am Comfy all the way . So I never wear my high heels in airport and bought the best shoes I could find to go

With business suits and be very comfy ( still look like an idiot but worth it )

-It's all about the bags so I buy stuff that is classy and cool and in style but easy to carry for my back . And I always have a small Purse with phone and passport lipstick and hand sanitizer very accessible 

-Always a hair elastic around my wrist , lululemon pants , a pillow , my agenda , eos Lip balm , hand moisturizer  and a good book for before bed 

-I never watch tv in hotels but read and work and plan my whole life just like on vacation . I never make airtime a waste of time 

-I always forget my travel pillows on the  planes  and am sad because I love them 

-I have Nexus and it is amazing and let's me pass all the lines and feel important ( except like this time that nexus or not i got the lucky 1/1000 random search of body and all electronics ! )

-For business presentations I try to look really put together and have nice clothes hair and makeup and change into a different evening business casual outfit for evening team events 

-On plane the way there I wear lululemon  and casual ( even though some say that need to be ready for business on plane too ,I have enough business and need comfort more  ) on way back I wear my business suits and funky comfy shoes and still look like a loser without proper shoes but at least my ankles are not twisted and I can run for connecting flights 

-I bring my own snacks of 100 calories so I am not too tempted by airplane snacks ( and often I just eat those and my own snacks and end up double  the calories so maybe need to change this tactic ! )

-I always plan my next vacations on the plane and calculate with money earned how to pay for them or which line of credit to use 

-I always pray for safety in a plane and say a note of thanks when I land safely . I always clap for the pilot when the plane lands . Even if sometimes I am the only one 

-I try and get Chase to pick me up as I am scared of taxis and we have our little airport routine down pat him and I 

-When I get home from trips I relax and take it easy and often go to bed . Business trips tire me 

-I try to make people who don't travel for business ( ie my family ) understand that it is often exhausting and similar to 16 hrs days at office . I happen to often be in nice places but often don't even get to see them . I try to make them see that I need to go to bed and can't be doing dishes cooking and laundry after " my break "

-I have no system to my suitcase and usually roll up clothes in a ball and deal with them at home except for one outfit on a hanger that I put nicely in dry cleaning paper 

-I always have an extra business skirt and shirt and pair of business shoes in case zippers break or stains get on them .Trust me on this one when you have one pair of boots with a suit and the zipper breaks and you have to wear running shoes to give a keynote speech - it helps you learn this lesson 

-In case any of that may have helped .. Happy business travelling !

Re-posting from April 2015 :Introducing my First Published Book!

(I am re-posting this blog from April 2015 as many people and clients have commented cannot find this blog post  in my history and neither can I!)

“More Life, Please!” By Dr Christian Marcolli with Tarina Wagschal

What a dream come true. Seriously every boat ride, plane ride, all my dreams and moments and nature walks-these ideas have been swirling through my mind forever. And now they have finally come together in a published book through Urbane Publications.

My esteemed co-author is really well known. He is a world class expert on sustainable high performance and works with some of the finest athletes around the world (Roger Fedherer anyone???) as well as business leaders and Fortune 500 market leading organizations.

What an honor for me to have been asked to collaborate on this book together over the last two years. This is truly such an honor for me. As I re-read our book this weekend I was truly in shock. It is sooooo good!!!!!! (never had a issue with confidence, have you noticed?)

Christian and I have been co-facilitating leadership development programs at a major global pharma company for more than 9 years. He is one of my closet colleagues and this was the natural next step for us. He has been one of my powerful mentors in my lifetime.

The book is all about how challenging life can be and exploring” is there time for a successful career AND those we love?”  We all strive to get more from life but can struggle to find a positive harmonization between our career and family commitments. Business leaders and corporate performers constantly focus on achieving ambitious objectives and building positive lasting partnerships-but how can we bring those dynamic strengths into our private lives, far beyond the office desk and into our homes?

More, Life Please! Changes your life for the better to help you engage more positively with everyone you interact with. Passion. Precision. Peace. Presence and Persistence are vital elements and essential to your success.

For those who have mastered the corporate world and are keen on positively improving their private and family lives too. More Life Please! Is the Performance Pathways to a Better You.

Please check the book out on Amazon.ca!

I welcome all your comments and Amazon reviews and anyone who wants to post a book review on their blog-I am most grateful.

Leaving my place of work after 12 yrs has done wonders for my blog! Tripled my audience since the day I left. (I have the feeling that many associates got curious a little more?)  Serendipity made it so that my book was published my last official day at work.

Weird coincidence?

No-I  think not. Is anything in life?

Happy Reading and thanks for the support everyone!!

Absolutely Hard and Totally Beautiful Stage

I have described the later teen years ( age 16. 5 and older ) as very similar in my opinion to the newborn through the terrible twos .

It is such a rough stage to raise at this age ( older teen and young adult ) an so annoying and frustrating many days of the week when you literally feel you may pull your hair our from the nonsense and watching them make decisions that you know will cost them so much later on 

That being said on my opinion it is by far the most beautiful too . It is an honor and a privilege. Its is in so many ways seeing every seed you planted ( and the ones you did not ! ) come to full fruition. They keep the parts of you and how you brought them up that they agree with close to their hearts and throw the rest of it out like yesterday's trash

As parents we learn a lot about ourselves and our methods through this process! Nothing like a mirror up to your face with reality like an older teen to show you where you messed up royally . I hear myself saying so often " hope you make the right decision for yourself ! All the best of luck !! " ( and then go throw up in bathroom )

Or like the other night where you realize  your parenting was fabulous :)

Chase and i had a big date an Assante conference with hundreds of other clients . They are our valued financial investors for more than 20

Yrs now and chase as of 18 their client too . So he and i went and had the best nignt ever . The financial speech was ok ( chase liked it more than me ) but the keynote was so inspirational about the one of two québécois who made it to the top of everest among many other massive lifetimes adventures and hard obstacles. 

We listened with tears in our eyes and admiration  

We had jokes between us ( pesto and ceasear salad kits on grocery lists on boring financial speech anyone ? ) or chairs from the dollar store that felt like we would collapse at any moment ! Lol 

I adore sharing life with him . With  all my teens . He made this ordinary event extraordinary  for me . And it helped him saying he thought i was the best dressed woman in the room ! A rare compliment ( vs usual critic) as he likes when i wear my two more expensive power suits 

He loved the newness of it all and the crowd and gifts and networking. I take it all for granted as my daily business life . He appreciates it  through new eyes 

And i offered him a glass of wine and he said no and he insisted to drive both ways and let me take a selfie of us together on our date . He made my day 

So often we think his dad and i , how much easier it would be to have him live away as of next year university .. In so many ways would be easier as not a piece of cake living with a young adult at all 

But we would all be missing out too. on watching him grow and mature and reject us as he grows into his own and embrace us when he needs us . There is a lot more growing up to do all of us together in this family and a lot more fun to be had 

I hope he chooses to stay home for 1-4 more years... I really do .

I know we will make it work if he is 3-5 hrs away i know we will . But i also know the benefits of proximity and sharing daily life as i did and still do

With my mom which has always been the biggest gift of mine and my children's lives having her so close by 

I don't  want just the holidays and smiles . I want it all . The dirty dishes even and the laundry they do on their own and not do for a month . And i know skype exists but for me not at all the same . Its all smiles and happy  or too busy to even bother 

To me its the daily that i want to still be part of . The good the bad and the ugly . All of it - for a little bit longer . After university undergraduate it is time to move out but i hope he enjoys this all enough to chose to live at home  even for 1-2 extra years . But as we know healthy young adults and healthy family dynamics are hardly about what the parents want or what they feel is best  for the young adult - but what the person chooses for themselves that is best for their life or their unique learning process 

The best parenting skill we have is the ability to let go 

And we may  have to as of less than a year from now 

I love you chase from deep deep within my heart 

Whenever you choose to have life take you i will respect and support you and we will make it all Work out