As we go through life, we learn.
One thing that I have learnt in phase 2 of my kid’s lives has been that the more time you spend with them, the more you enjoy them and the more they enjoy you.
The more time you spend. The easier it all gets.
What has changed for me in the last couple of years it not the amount of time I spend with my kids-but the quality of time I spend with them.
I likely spend less and less time with them as they get older. They need me less, I work more, and Hubby works more.
What I have done though is make sure that we are spending our time in ways that matter to the family. Each week there are certain special ways in which we connect and per month certain rituals that we do to that have us all come together.
These are besides our regular family dinners and holidays and ski lessons and sports etc..
They are specific to our family and to our values.
These moments always bring us back to where we belong
I have realized that tradition and ritualization is healthy for my family as much as I have struggled with certain elements around it..because it is just one more thing to plan. I have struggled with that what I need if anything, is more spontaneity in my life and not more tradition. However…I have also now realized a very simple truth. What I don’t plan does not happen.
I used to have some rituals with friends that have disappeared…because they were not planned together.
I used to have a certain day I spoke on the phone every week with an extended family member but last year we did not plan this. It did not happen.
What I put focus on happens. What I do not..Does not. It's that simple for me.
I like the quote on my friend’s blog this week:
“Plan far enough ahead”
I think this is important for us all to keep in mind as we make decisions now that affect the rest of our lives,
It’s likley comes naturally for most of us that this is important to do at work.
What about at Home?
