Tall
and strong. High up in the air.
Getting
to see from afar what you may not be able to see closer to the ground.
Letting
you play in the waves-have fun and frolic
Reeling
you in and providing light when you are in danger
Nor
being afraid to shine upon you
Looking
at you and guarding you from high above-keeping watch
Providing
gentile light when needed and being there when it really matters and even when
it does not matter
In
the daytime being a beautiful piece of history people climb and visit and take
pictures of
Being
a symbol of strength and light and wonder
Knowing
the lighthouse will continue standing through the years. Be strong. Be there.
Will
weather will the the storms but never fade. Will continue standing and
providing the most beautiful of light.
In
big moments, small moments, everyday life
The lighthouse
always stands
Your
light…
Your
lighthouse
Choosing
to shine upon you.
Letting
the light in.
Letting
yourself to strive to become the light
Showing
you what it means to shine
One
day
Soon.
Last night we spent a really special evening with some
really special people.
As they left with their three babes at 12:30 am it reminded us so much of when
our kids were that young age (5,3,1) and when we would go to friends’ homes,
put our kids to bed in playpens at 7:30pm and then have the evening to spend
with the adults,. Then wake them up at 12:30am and take them home. All so well sleep
trained that this was perfectly ok and a ton of fine.
Soulkeepers kids are like this too (thanks to her and her
Hubby and all the training, consistency and structure they provide) I looked
back with good memories and fondness when I saw them leaving with their
lids…….it reminded me so much of us. That they have such a rich family life but
also just a rich life in general.
We invited Soulkkeeper, her Hubby and three kids for a
special evening at Trent. We have been thinking over the last year what a major
influence they have become in our parenting of teens and were wanted to
underline that role they are playing and continue to play. We used the symbol
of a “Lighthouse “ to reflect the evening and it’s importance to us.
After their kids went to bed we had a dinner with our
three kids and them that lasted a couple of hours. We shared with our kids how
this family has help be a lighthouse to us over the last 5 yrs. and watch out
for us and we navigate our ways in the water. We shared with them how being a
parent has so many invisible steps that they don’t see (the anxiety, the
worrying the big decisons made) and that these two people as a parenting team
have helped us guide our children. We talked about Chase and Concerta and all
the research we did, we talked about Bear’s surgery and him not getting into
the sport program initially because of it and the advice and direction and
celebration they provided us. We talked about Beauty and the way Soulkeeper has
helped me access certain parts of myself and herself as mother and daughter. Then
Protector marked a toast and really beautifully thanked them both for the
support they have provided in the last couple of months behind the scenes to me
with some struggles he has been dealing with. This was a wonderful example for
our kids to see how adults can struggle too (like all of us!) and how they need
friends. How confiding weaknesses and not just strengths is how you can access
the best in your friendship.
Sun and clouds. Both. Sharing it all.
It was an amazing discussion and although our three kids
very quiet and silent most the time they were very very engaged almost like
sponges Soulkeeper said absorbing it all in.
Then Soulkeeper said some beautiful things and so did her
Hubby. He really talked a lot about me and my parenting and how much I was
devoted to both the short and long terms happiness of my kids. It actually
brought tears to my eyes how he described me-how he saw me. And that he shared
this with my kids. It felt so wonderful to hear myself described in that way.
It actually shocked me, and touched me on a profound and deep level.
And then we enjoyed the rest of our evening. The kids
went to watch a movie and play on ipads and we just talked and talked and
talked. Mainly girls and guys seperate. Me and Soulkeeper went on the dock and
talked and went into Jacuzzi and the guys sat and drank wine all night on the
porch and talked about boats and fish.
It was an important night for me and one where we really
celebrated a role that might be seen as invisible for our kids as they don’t really
understand what goes on behind the scenes and bought it to life for them. They
got to see a lot about friendships and love and have it articulated to them
which are rare for teens.
They got to have the vision of a Lighthouse stuck in
their minds. They got to see love in action. They go to see that when something
is important to me I make it important to them. They got to see that when it
comes to teens it is damn hard!!! And that I need serious help!!! Soulkeeper
and Hubby are both specialists in teens. Worked for years and years with
troubled boys in juvenile detention etc. They are a massive source of knowledge
and support and I basically go to them –tell them my problems and let them tell
me exactly what to do!!! Love this. this was my method when kids were little
too-look at someone who knows what they are doing, read a lot and make sure you
agree and let them tell you what to do-Works wonders as far as I am concerned!
Nothing changes. Their family remains what they have
always been. It was simply articulated in words which I think is something that
in life we all don’t do enough of. Take the time to bring out what is inside.
Make time to tell people how very important they are to
us and how they have impacted your lives in such special and meaningful ways.
