It’s so true what is said about giving; that when we give
from our hearts we feel so good ourselves. Giving gifts..is often so much
better than receiving.
My son and I gave a very special gift about a month ago. Something
that could never ever be enough, but was a very small token of our heartfelt
sadness of a loss. Something we took together over a month to decide
on..together.
When Chase’s friend lost his Dad 2 months ago…….it was extremely
sad to say the least. I wrote a post on this and the funeral back in June.
We decided a month after his Dad’s passing to write a
long letter to the Mom and 3 kids and tell them how beautiful and moving the
funeral was. Included in that letter were gift certificates for the three kids
to come for a swim and dinner at our place and to go to Sky Venture with our
family-which is a very cool and expensive flying assimilation experience. Not
something you do everyday or even in a lifetime. During this time we also bought
a gift certificate for the Mom to have a relaxing massage at our fave spa.
And they were so happy to receive this gift. And we were
so happy to give it to them and for them to be happy for even those few
moments. The event is planned for a few weeks form now.
And since then…every one Chase sees he tells about this
gift…..he is so proud..and so happy to have given it. It came straight from his
heart and he is thrilled that it touched his friend and his family so
profoundly.
Chase realized through this gift how important acts of
service and kindness can be to others in time of need. And how really…although
a gift could never change or alter a situation or a loss;.that people need to
be taken care of through their grief and most importantly to be acknowledged.
So their son will come a couple of times to our cottage
this summer and we will be there for him. Not to pretend he did not endure such
profound loss…but to just be there for whatever he needs. To make sure he is
the priority. And even if we are not close to the family, or even my son is not
his closest friend….to be there for others..and offer your support. To not be
shy when it comes to giving. There is never enough love for anybody in this world who is experiencing such grief...that is what I told Chase.
I am so proud of Chase and I think he is proud of me too.
All because of this gift that brought us together in this terrible experience. Because
we gave our hearts and it felt good to do this together.
