Moments....
What are
they? How do I make More of them? How do I savor the ones in between all the
other ones? How do I balance out the important, responsible, necessary long
term moments that secures the future with the spontaneous delicious indulgent
ones that focus on the present?
2016 is sure
to give me those answers..
Stopping to
smell the boeuf bourginone in the crockpot. On my way there mixing in green
food coloring into the icing for the cupcakes just because it looks prettier
Taking the
car back to the forest to walk one more round in the snowflakes and outside
fire in between chauffeuring the kids to and from the mountain
One of us cooking
in the earlier morning with classical relaxing music playing while the other
reads by the fire. Enjoying solitude-yet togetherness. Roles being
interchangeable
Focusing on
ME and US more in our daily lives and not just one the very occasional alone
vacations. Since the teens are clearly getting their own lives –starting to look
at getting our own lives too on a more regular basis. Social Dancing? Yoga
retreats? Days in the snow planned just for us?
Walking by
the kids who are (of course) on their phones and video games and instead of
saying” why don’t you do something else!” giving them a soft kiss on the cheek
and a smile
Interacting
less with the kids and disturbing them less with nagging and chatter and
letting them enjoy their own forms of leisure
while enjoying mine. Caring less and letting them live their lives while still
expecting respectful and healthy interactions. Expecting less and getting more.
Really crystalizing
our times we do have together and being home for almost all family dinners and
making the times we do have really count (family games, family movies, family
dinners, car rides, visits with extended family and friends) Worrying less
about what happens in between
Trusting more
and more. Warning less. Less teaching moments and more learning from them
moments
Focusing way
way less on the future and way way more on the here and now and the beauty and loveliness
of the next 5 -10 yrs while we still have the privilege of having the kids home
. Having the confidence that they have been taught and can now be gently
coached. Believing in the strong foundation that has been built.
Cleaning up
more myself. Twice a day tidy to calm my restless spirit and energy.
Cooking on
Sunday lunches and Wednesday dinners and maybe even a big healthy salad on
Mondays. Putting it in the calendar so it gets done. Stopping for delicious
last minute ingredients and playing music while I cook (please please God just let me be able to do this even once in 2016!!!)
Move/Choose/Manage/Know/ DAILY whether on vacation or in normal life. Make it something my body and my
mind always NEEDS. Have my angel spirits and live spirits guide my way on each
category
Take a yoga
retreat with my Hubby (on a beach of course!)
Make moments
for time in Swiss and seeing a very very important friend who my heart and soul
ache to see and spend time with in person (and her lovely daughter too)
Write all the
things down I want to do in 2016 with friends, family, for myself and put
reminders in my calendar and agenda and make absolutely sure they happen
Start
nurturing young children more. Form stronger relationships with a few special
little ones already in my life.
Foster a dog
for 2-6 weeks and get this out of my system (or into it forever?)
Make more
time for the people I love more systematically. See BFF’s more –couple friend’s
more-take kids out to lunch more. Use my time that is more flexible than ever
before in ways that please me.
Focus less on
others (including Hubby and children) and more on ME. Focus less on the fancy
stuff and more on the simple stuff. Get pleasure from a simple salad or a good
workout, a nice walk, a good book, a good show, cleaning down the counter top
with Lysol. Wearing a new lip-gloss
Make time for
getting ready, getting pretty, cleaning up the house, chatting, answering a
quick text, having a quick conversation
Follow my
heart more and my brain less. Do what I like to do and don’t over think it so
much. If I like checking email in a time when not with family directly then
check it (evenings). Break my own rules more often
Always always
have a: good TV series/a good book/ listen to news
Treasure
tucks in times with the kids
Give lots of
hugs and kisses –and get them too
Let myself do
mindless things
Popotte more
(clean, cook, wander)
Do something
wonderful and kind for myself
Be daring and
be younger . Don’t lose myself
Get away as
often as we can afford to and is feasible
Leave more
time for things: conversations, getting pretty, chatting, leisure, and
spontaneity.
Listen so so
so much more to my heart
Make time to
be grateful. I was so grateful yesterday when I had food poisoning or severe gastro
(nice way to end a holiday eh?) and my hubby just took over completely. He is a
wonderful kind and caring man. He had ZERO time for this with a to do list
longer than mine going back to work after 2 weeks off but took care of me , I
love him. Best choice of my life to marry him. And when he is in charge of kids
(aka I did not speak all day as was too weak) things are so super calm. I need to learn from him. He is my 2016J
Anyways I don’t
know if this blog makes sense of not as I am day 2 of being super sick but I wanted
to end it and finish it off.
It’s hard to
think of moments when real life comes back and vacation is over but it is
something I have to do more and more and more. Today it feels nearly impossible
having missed a whole day of organizing and cleaning yesterday and today my day
is ruined by being sick and I wonder how I will possibly ever get anything
done.
But life is
really just a series of moments isn’t it? We can either blaze through them
blindly or capture them lovingly. We can ignore them or seize them.
I need more moments. Of this I am
sure.
I am daring
myself to do it (for you poppet6!)
With love and
happy 2016!
Tarina Lauren
Kate
