20 things i have learnt about my marriage in 20 yrs...
As you know we celebrated 20 yrs last week . I will write this list deliberately both positive - negative as that is what marriage is all about . A chaotic bliss of blessings and hard work all mixed together in one sweet melting pot . A little like life itself actually !
Here's a little about mine :
1- extremely solid and secure . I knew that from the beginning . We ride alot of waves and we ride them hand in hand
2- he is my coma guy ( he would take care of me in a coma )
3 we both have very clear cut roles of what we take care of in house .. Kids ... Work . Thankfully we are good at different things and like different things too
4 - we share a passion for our three children. We still look at them in awe and cant believe that we made them together. For both of us this parenting of them bonds us in a way nothing else does
5 - we don't fight very well at all but got better about 3 yrs ago and continue to improve
6- what we fight about remains a constant of about 2-3 themes and never changes
7- we are super super compatible and like to live our lives in very similar paces , ways , and styles
8- you could not picture two more opposite personalities
9-what we want for the future is very very similar and how we see our lives at work , with adult children and with each other
10- emotional and physical intimacy changes year to year and matches where we are at in that part of our lives
11- we spend a ton of time together. much more than most couples i know
12 - our togetherness never took a back seat to parenting. It is as important and we always made time for alone time
13- our kids see our struggles and our very aware of them
14- we both could not live without leisure and vacation and truly embody the expression " work hard play hard"
15- we both live our lives trying to aim for not looking back with regrets . We are here and now types and no better time than the present
16- we have kept the same work schedule ( aka Mondays we work until 11pm .. Tuesday dinner with kids 7:30 .. Wed own activity evening etc for 20 yrs with very little changes etc
17- we are always happy to come home to each other and share our day
18- family comes first for both of us . It never occurs to us to have it any other way
19- we have gone to bed mad many times
20- we would do anything for each other and go to bat for eachother , protect each other and help each other always . 20 yrs of marriage especially in today's society is a rarity. We don't give up as if all matters way to much to us
We are damn proud . And damn deserving . We have worked very very well and very very hard . Here is to many more !!!
