“Happiness cannot be travelled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace and gratitude”
(Denis Waitley)
“Setting your Day”
This term really resonated with me from the book Blissology by Andy Baggott.
He is right. We receive what we want and invite into our lives.
He says the cure to depression is to watch the sunset for 10 days. I would not doubt it for a single second.
I think more often than not, we set our day in the wrong way. We expect a friend to disappoint us, and so she does, we expect our child to put up a fuss with the food placed in front of him and so he does. We expect that the snow storm will make us late for work and so we are.
What if we were to invite beautiful moments in our life much more often? What if we were to expect them? Part of my Happiness Project (update post on that within the next few week btw) is about just that. It’s about just focusing on some of the small stuff in my life that makes me happy vs. the bigger buckets.
Like this morning: I always work in the early morning. Always. And I exercise after working in the morning three of those days. But today I just gave myself a half an hour break to crawl back in bed and read beside my birthday boy husband. It felt very indulgent but it was the right thing to do. I did it simply because I wanted to. Today. That moment.
Or yesterday I just gave myself permission to sit there for about 20 minutes and watch my two sons interact. One was doing a photography project for school and was using the other one as a model. Each time the model would get the pose right the photographer would yell out “Superstar!”. It was so damn cute. I loved just watching it. Enjoying it. Enjoying them.
Writing represents that to me too-it sets my day in so many ways. It is Gratitude in the purest form for me. Makes me appreciate all the small moments in between and gives me a snapshot of where my life is at and also how far I have come. One moment at a time.
At my door tonight-another Mom just told me that her son was accepted to a great program at a school he was waitlisted for, I was so happy for him. This kid is so deserving. When she asked me about Bear and his waitlist position I very calmly said" I am very confident he will get in. We just have to be patient” I felt peaceful and calm and confident. Why? Because I believe it and because I am choosing to set my day. Choosing the next actions that will occur. It will come to me. I am inviting it. I am dreaming it to life.
Basically I believe we design our future-I truly do. As Baggot says if we are ill, we need to focus on health and getting better. If we are poor we need to focus on getting richer. If we are unhappy we need to focus on getting happy.
If we are feeling down and depressed we need to set our day. We need to get up and watch the sunrise.
Or end of day by watching the sunset.
