Breathe. Relax. Feel. Watch. Allow.
I read this and I love this.
Isn’t it interesting how we can bucket most of human
suffering into the bucket of wanting to be in a different place than we are? Or
have something else than what we have? Or wish things were different than they
currently are? For me it is an enlightment to realize that so much hurt and
pain could be alleviated by simply
allowing ourselves to be where we are in the present. Not pining away and
wishing for something other than this exact moment as it is occurring to us.
Not moving too quickly into action before we fully feel
and not moving too quickly ahead towards a new and better feeling before
letting our real one through first.
This is sort of what I have always had against rose color
glasses. To me it is repression. To just be in a crappy place where you know it
is crappy, everyone else around you thinks it is crappy (and knows you think it
is crappy) but you put on and fake that it is great and wonderful! That to me
is no BRFWA. And that is what has turned me off of a whole slew of blogs this
year which I discontinued reading. Give me a dose of reality please? Maybe just
once a month or something to keep me going?
However there is beauty in feeling. And allowing. And
being able to move on from it consciously. To choose to move on and still allow
the feeling. To watch what happens when you let yourself experience sadness and
pain in your life. And even better let someone else listen to you and hear you and
be there for you.
BRFWA. I have gotten so much better at this over the last
year and I am so desperately proud of myself of this. They always say the
teacher appears when the student is ready and boy have a few made some magical
appearances lately! And they are here to stay too! Their teachings are ongoing
in my life and I look back and wonder how I could have possibly survived
without them.
Recently in a situation that happened with my husband I took
the BRFWA approach over the course of a day and it helped me a lot. Those
around me to whom I confided the story said “omg..That is a tough situation!”
But I let myself relax about it and really deeply feel sad and mad about it, I watched how I reacted and
behaved and what I felt like doing and I did it, I allowed myself to behave in
a why that was contrary to how I usually deal with things. I allowed tenderness
and forgiveness where a grudge normally resides. I allowed a different part of
myself to emerge. Even if that surprised myself. And I am sure shocked my lucky
husband. I was tender even under the hardest of circumstances. OMG! WTF? (sorry
I swear when I am in shock)
So the next time you are asked what you feel about
something and you respond “I don’t know because I won’t let myself think about
it” or “that is too much for me to handle so I try not to feel it” or “I can’t
deal with that right now-it is just not me to allow myself to think about that”…..
Try to do things differently…and BRFWA…and see what
happens. Let someone in. Let your true self in. Let yourself feel, as scary as
that might be…let your real self-meet your public persona and see what magic
offcurs….let hard things happen.
You can handle it. You can do it. I know you can. Let
your angry face loosen up and smile.
And if you can even take it a step further and share that
journey with someone around you who loves you. Let them in too.
Let it all be super magical as you watch what you are
truly and totally capable of.
Let yourself grow up and bloom slowly and surely.
Grow into your full potential. It’s time now Do it now
please?
