Hi Y’all.
(yes this is a new expression for me. When
you read blogs that say y’all and boy howdy and hunker down…you make a bit of
fun at first and then you just join in the fun).
Y’all I have something to tell you:
You know that family book I am writing…now
two chapters from being complete…. which will be published in first part of
2014? Ya the one where I am co-authoring and sharing many of my special
parenting tips because I am supposed to be some kind of family expert?
Well don’t take those tips too seriously ok?
I don’t think after this weekend I can consider myself a family “expert”. Booh
hoo for me.
What a disaster.
In Quebec after grade 11 there is two years
CEGEP before University. Well Chase is in Grade 10 and I am a big planner and
do everything way way in advance..and so off to the CEGEP we go (my own alma
mata nonetheless)
And my son….my oldest..the one I love until
it hurts me heart..:
ACTED LIKE A COMPLETE ASSHOLE AND
LOSER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
And trust me I was not shy to let him know
this fact.
It started as we 15 mins into the ride there
and he wanted to go back home and brush his teeth (bc he forgot) I said no.
Then he told me to shut up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
OMG!
Then he called his Dad (who I am married to
by the way) telling him that I was a complete idiot for not turning back. Then
he said open houses are totally useless and he has not interest and he will
just choose one off the internet that has the “chiropractor thing”. I asked him
if he had any idea what marks and courses he needed for human sciences and he
said “who cares, whatever”
So there you have it! The almost 16 yr old
product of a family specialist attempting to contribute to a book and share the
wealth so you can all influence your own offspring in this delightful way!
I have never been so angry and disappointed
in my life. Honestly. I had this visit all planned out in my head..visit my old
pool..my old cafeteria…walk the ground..Have Chase ask me tons of questions
about my youth…go find pictures of me somewhere…talks to other parents and see
other kids. Stop by the center for ADD
and get some info for the future.
NOT! NOT! NOT!
Try very sullen and depressive child. Silent.
No interest in anything. Not speaking to me bc I told him he was an asshole and
I didn’t care if he failed grade 10 (ok ok ok…I know ..I know..I know…happens
at least once a decade with each kid ok!!!)
(And he told me those flip-flops after September
look “gay”. Yes I was wearing them).
And at least I am honest in a admitting this
horrible horrible behavior on my part (although many of my friends admit to
calling their kids assholes and idiots too but not on a public forum!!!)
And the open house was a big waste of time
and I was green with envy of all the kids were there engaged interested and
absorbed in this special event. And who actually liked their parents.
Not mine.
Finally he took keys and went and sat in car
with a few pamphlets he picked up in the science section by himself.
I am truly counting on my middle and last
child to make this up to me in the future.
It was then and there that I made a decions:
Your education is yours my little darling
boy. Yours. I will give you tools..show up..help you if you need…but no more
coddling you child.
Done.
Done.
Done.
Did you hear me??????? Loud enough?
Anyways-after I screamed and ignored him for
the day and grounded him for the night for saying shut up to me-I think he kind of got the message I was
not too happy or proud. I have a feeling it will all shake things up for the
better although I could have used another strategy to get there right?
Are we in the “real” teenage stage yet? Yes I
think so. Yuck.
So if you do read my book pls tear up the
pages on academic success as clearly I
have no clue. I thought I did all these years with a kids who has learning
issues, goes to a great private school and totally holds his ground, does
lots of homework, gets it all done, has a good and smart head on his
shoulders….but this open house thing traumatized me completely.
So just let those kids do homework in front
of the television with their cell phones parents! We might end up with the same
final results at this stage anyways! Might as well forget all the nagging and
discipline alone the way as it seems to make no difference in the final outcome
anyways.
Poor me.
And while you are at it ignore the section of
the book where it talks about how much I adore this teenage phase too ok? Just
skip over that part (oh crap it actually is the whole book you may need to skip
over!) Help editor!!! Reality check here!!!!
(And hopefully my second child will know that
an orthodontist needs to like teeth).
