All the shoes at the door are way bigger than yours..
Friday nights is no longer pizza and movie night with the
kids to catch up after a busy week- but
pizza and movie night with Hubby often and interrupted by lots and lots of chauffeuring
around…
When your son makes arrangements to go to another high
school dance and buys the tickets with his own money…
When your daughter is so so far beyond you in terms of
multimedia and technology it is scary…
When every Friday night your daughter makes arrangements
to walk home with a group of girls and it takes her nearly two hours to get
there as they stop to shop, to buy candy, stop at dad’s office, flirt with the
boys…
When your son is dressed in a suit and tie today and at a
career day for college preparation!
When they realize their pants smell and haven’t been
washed in a while and go down and out them in the laundry machine and run it.
When you realize that “their worries” are not necessarily
the only worries you have anymore. When there is space in your brain..for You..
When last night you choose to speak to a BFF on the phone
for two hours instead of tucking the kids in and they were fine just coming and
planting a kiss quietly on your head without interrupting this toal indulgent
evening you were having….
When you can go to a huge fundraising event on Saturday
night and not hire a babysitter (although one is going to a sleepover!)
When your Hubby can go out with a buddy on Thursday night
and you can stay at work until 9pm and catch up on work and come home to a relatively
tidy house, dinner eaten and homework done..
When you don’t have to remind much about homework or
studying anymore..(ok you have to nag only 1/3 of the usual time)
When your kids do ¾ of all the laundry of themselves throughout the
week in teams and it actually smells fresh..is clean…and is decently folded (well
at least as well as I would do it myself which is not a stretch objective in
any sense)..
When the dishwasher gets unloaded without me asking…
When you come in the door and it is silent instead of
kids running to you be they are all on their computers and phones…L
When the home phone is never ever used be everyone (minus
one!) has a cell….
When your birthday gifts are no longer homemade at school; and
things you would choose yourself at the boutiques…
When the two boys decide to spend 350$ that they have
been saving for years on a new game thing and then meet 19 yrs. olds
afterschool and buy and sell games to and from them…
When they each work with the decorator themselves to
choose paint colors and I am not even home…
When they all speak French together as a team and I am
English….
When you have no clue how they study, What they study, What their marks are unless they tell you as
you choose not to look anymore. When you trust that their past performance will
dictate their future success…and trust in
that for real
When they encourage you to try and get a promotion and be away from
home more “because they can handle it and it is a good career development for
you”
….
….
When she is just so beautiful when she prepares for her
dance auditions-that it totally takes your breath away as you watch her
graceful, becoming womanly body ,move to the music which comes from deep deep
inside of her…When the beauty of her dance brings you to tears literally.
When he knows himself if he needs to take Concerta on the
weekends and always makes the right choice for him…
When he is completely 100% instrinsically motivated and
aims (and gets!) 100% in so many exams and tests because he wants to be proud
of himself…and aim high for his future career...
When they start acting like the worst parts of yourself.
When you see yourself as an adult in them. When you realize that you needed to
be a better role model for lots and lots of things and maybe now it is too late!
When they look at you..and still kiss you and hold you
and say I love you…and you imagine the type of amazing husbands and wives they
will be one day…
When all the sudden time and your marriage become a brand
new flower to uncover…..
When you look over at your husband almost daily and
think, say and express “thank you so much for making and growing these beautiful
people with me-I can never ever thank you enough for this precious gift”
