Savvy and I had a good conversation on the phone a bit back about how sometimes in life we have to get used to “a new normal” I totally get it. I understand it. It makes sense to me. But I still hate it. I liked my old normal better. Who moved my cheese??
Well since then it literally feels like everyone close around
me is also struggling to get used to their own versions of new normal too. So much
has happened to me and around me in the early part of 2014. And the snow that
we still have in April here….who even notices or cares? Least of everyone’s concerns
around here.
Right now most people very close to be are going through
some major crisis or life changes. One BFF is sitting in a hospital right now while
they are doing a surgery on her husband for the second time in two weeks..another
BFF is on her way to very likely say goodbye to her Nanny (who is like her
mother) and have to make the tough decisions to possibility opt for palliative
care…and other BFF is waiting for specialized blood tests to come back from the
children’s hospital for her son who has not been feeling himself. Another text
last night from my Uncle and Aunt that a beloved family member in their family
is on his last days and they were making the trip down to say their
goodbyes. And the list goes on and on and
on and on.
And everyone else close to me is also struggling with big things too around me in
general …concussions…illness….divorces….infertility …bullying….deciding to have
a baby or not…hearing loss..getting used to a new brace, post traumatic concussion
symptoms..Allergies to wheat....being sober….high blood pressure.
What is happening? I ask this to my husband all the time.
He says it is the way of the world and that the only reason
that I am noticing it now is because I am in my forties. He is 12 yrs. older
than me so for him this is all old hat.
He says in the 40’s parents of friends start getting
sick..Our parents start facing health issues …people themselves in 40 and 50
start experiencing health problems. And this
is true for sure. We lost hubby;s Dad ..my Dad and my beloved Grampy all within
I think 3 yrs. Also most common age of
divorce, illness, crisis. I guess also said also as kids get older their “natural”
evolutions (health problems, curves of spine, high cholesterols etc…) start
showing up as part of their genetic makeup as they make their way into their
long term bodies and adulthood. Yuck.
Wow-people really know what they are talking about eh
when they say to enjoy the carefree 20’s and 30’s!!!! And advise us take every moment
possible with young kids and babies! No wonder there are so many Moms opting to
stay home full time.
Anyways today my thoughts are not for myself and my own crisisis.
They are for the people I love around me struggling with their own crisis, my
heart and prayers go out for health happiness and love. For all of you-from all
of us. This weekend many of the closet people in my life are living their own versions
of hell. I won’t write details as it is their stories to share not mine but know
that I love you and care for you and have nothing but you in mind.
And even if the “new normal” is where we all have to
go-somehow I want to find our way back to what used to be so simple.
But I know that we can’t. So here’s me doing the next
best thing offering up my hand to hold yours so that together we walk in our
new normal line
Love,
Lauren Kate
