I am a very opinionated person when it comes to
parenting. So are a lot of the authors that I read their parenting blogs. It’s kind
of comes with the territory of having a family or parenting blog…the shyer
wishy washy people out there somehow don’t seem to get their own blogs. If they
do people don’t seem to read them.
About half of the parenting blogs I read agree with my
parenting advice more or less. Another half completely different perspectives.
I learn from all of them equally.
There was a few this week that struck me. One of them
probably the most opinionated blog person on the planet (and that is ME saying that).
Totally totally different than me-but I love reading her blog and her advice. In
her mind SHE is right. About everything. We could not be more different. She has
6 kids..nursed all of them until two years old…slept with them in her bed
except for naps until they were three…considers homeschooling them (but has
not) and is a stay at home mom who adamantly believes that working outside the
home when you have children is a strict no- no. She is also a strict catholic.
But I still relate to her. She is a Mommy first and foremost. So am I. I love the ways she
tells people what to do. Love her direct style.
She also provides some very interesting research (which like today depresses me a little) but
she is nevertheless a good source of information and education.
On one of the blogs she linked hers up to the reader said
many very respected studies show a strong strong correlation between a mother
staying home and a child’s overall happiness over a lifetime..not childhood a lifetime! )The second indicator
was happiness in a lifetime goes up for
the child with every sibling for them born.
Well the study on stay at home moms depressed me bc
clearly I don’t stay at home. The sibling one..made me feel good although I
wish in this case I would have gone for a forth. As they always say “harder on the parent but easier on the child”
.Don’t I know it!!!!!! It’s hard to be the only child of my Mom (two half-brothers)
No one to share my life with in this area.
But I was wondering did this study take into account the
moms who would go Crazy if they stayed at home with their kids???????????? I
mean at this age where they are at as pre-teen and teens I could easily do it. Would
actually be fun! But with little kids (not babies)…is it that much fun? Not for
me it isn’t. I would be bald because I would pull my hair out.
But as teens could do it for real. My daughter has had so
many doctor apts and events lately that she has to miss school for that it
almost feels she is homeschooled and I am not working (ok slight exaggeration as
I have maybe missed 4 hrs. a week and so has she) but since my brain thinks so
much about her Feels like my other 60 hrs
Of “real work” don’t countJ))
Today I thought…I love being with my teens so much I
could so much not work! (ps that would last a week) Does thinking about being a stay at home mom count for anything in terms
of my kid’s satisfaction in life or do I actually have to do something about it?
Anyways I love learning. I love being criticized as much
as I like being supported on my blog. I love leaving supportive comments for
other blogger as much as I love leaving the “WTF???” ones.
It’s all good. As long as I learn every day. And do
something with my learning.Put it somehow into action. Even when it depresses
me.
If you see me Preggo with twins, homeschooling.. And
having lost my mind know that it is that study’s fault!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
