It's
always a bit of a crazy and hectic week . We have been doing it for years now
.
The
two weeks kids leave in summer. (Chase three)... we work frantically one of
them and then enjoy one at cottage
We just
finished the working frantically one. And I a mean frantic until 8pm Friday night.
For us both to leave for three weeks and not be connected on email is a challenge.
(But
we both feel a necessity for our mental health)
Easier
for me now that not with a big company but still much harder than I imagined. I
will be very very busy in August upon my return which is a good thing I guess!
That
being said how busy it is for both at work ... We take every spare moment
without to kids to indulge in life. Every moment to the point that we exhaust ourselves from indulgence.
We
bring boat back from cottage and rent a slip at yacht club a use if every spare
moment on the water
Each
night. Dinner out picnic style on boat. Dinner out with boat at Restos . Snacks
and drinks in boats with friends . Stolen last minute picnic lunches on boat .
Big naps on boat . Small naps
On
boat . Reading on boat .
And
this is all in between frantic work . The fun part of not having a boss anymore
is that I just do whatever the hell I want when I want. That part is sooooo
lovely :)
Sleep
in until 10am anyone and then work 3 hrs and then go for a boat ride? Then work
until 9pm and head back onto the boat again for a little nap with my lover (my husband!)
It was our 19th wedding anniversary Tuesday. We are both super proud
of ourselves we have made it until this point. Even our kids said “wow mom and
Dad this is unbelievable!”
Weird
and crazy life and week.
Today
I took day off and did all errands and most of packing. Went to a Lebanese
speciality store and stocked up for our alone cottage 6 days with yummy and
healthy foods. Turnip and mint and onion sandwiches on the lunch menu tomorrow.
We
had a fight . One (had been about a year and we were due)
(He
fell asleep in the middle of a crisis I was having and was bawling my eyes out
and he was snoring) Ok Ok it was 1 am but still! It was about our own
child!
I
had a big morning cry the next day in his arms as Chase may stay an extra week
working at dircamp and miss our family vacation. Tbd . I feel broken hearted truly.
A whole other post.
I
had a headache for 3 days and lots of back pain and neck pain –but this
did not stop me from this precious and frantic week.
Hubby
(title attorney) closes his office for three weeks and that is not easy!
We
slept in each other arms and slept outside a lot. We took hot tubs in morning
and took our time with reading the papers in the sun before work.
And
in between all of this craziness we had a crazy work life and a lot of fun in between.
This week’s formula worked for me!
We
just talk talk talk . He is so much calmer than I am. This calms me. If you ask
me what the cornerstone to a successful marriage is ... its weeks like this
that matter. When your role of parents becomes further from your memory than
closer juts for a short temporary amount of time. You done need a boat or a hot
tub or a cottage-all you need is a place to send the kids and each other. You
need Time for relationships to water them and see them grow. Make Time. Claim
it.
When
you get to take a real break from cooking and driving everyone around and
texting then every minute. Working becomes easy peasy when that is you only responsibility
in life.
Now
comes the next fun 6 days.
I
bought 15 books to read!!! And bought hubby 2 :))
Off
we go .
To bliss
and well deserved relaxation for the mind and soul.This will be my first real
mind vacation since the big career transition that I have had not a minute to
reflect on and ponder and process and grieve.
If
you had asked me a year and a half ago if it would have been possible for my
husband to start a three week vacation without a martini in hand to bring it on
... I would have told you "
“Absolutely not possible”
It
is possible.
I
was wrong.
It’s
not our Plan A..but it’s a good enough Plan B
What
this year has taught us is that with hard work and passion, deliberateness,
vulnerability, authenticity and full commitment and dedication..And the vision
of two never ever giving up on us or each other. Fighting the hard battles hand
in hand ..
Anything is possible .
And
that is a sweet, sweet unexpected surprise I am glad we stuck around long
enough for each other to indulge in the sweet smell of success
