“Nurturing
all that is authentic by acknowledging three simple realities: nothing lasts,
nothing is simple and nothing is perfect”
For me this means that it is life’s imperfections that
make life beautiful. And it is my imperfect self and the acknowledgment of it
that keeps my human journey fresh.
It is coming to peace with the fact that many things and
people and things that people do around us are irritating and baffling-but they
are temporary and fleeting and without these irritating things and people in
our lives we would miss them. There would be a hole in our lives.
And that is the way I understand the Japanese simplicity
perspective of Wabi Sabi.
Something I am trying to work on lately is judging
others, or wanting others to be more like me, or wanting to change people so
that I feel I can love them more, or being envious of what others have and I do
not. It is something I am actively working on in my own development. It’s as if
sometimes I feel like the world does not have enough love and happiness for all
of us. It’s a mindset I want to actively work on in myself and shift my paradigm
to a more positive place.
Part of this involves Wabi Sabi. Part of it involves
giving out compassion to those who are not showing me compassion at the moment
but who I know are generally very good people. Part of it involves sending
loving messages to those I feel might need a lift through daily messages to the
universe (at the same time each morning where I systematically express
gratitude and also set my intention of the day) sending it to people who quite
frankly in my life right now don’t deserve it-but who are getting it anyways.
Part of it is simply letting go. Which is hard as I hang
on tight. When I start letting go I feel like a big part of me is saying
goodbye.
I had a few situations within a few years- that
co-existed and taught me the same valuable lesson: sometimes you just have to
let things go in life. Sometimes you have to expect that you will always feel
baffled by things you just do not understand and have to move on anyway in a
loving and compassionate way.
Some other people in my life have called this being a
doormat. I think of it otherwise and differently. I see it all as a lesson we
learn about ourselves –a gift rather. To show compassion and to forgive to me
is the highest and most evolved of the human state. If your needs are not being
met in a situation or relationship-a doormat would mean to accept that and do
nothing about it. Compassion to me means seeing and communicating and understanding
that people do things differently and fulfilling the unmet needs you have in
different places and different people. That being said, still respecting and showing compassion and
loving understanding to the person or situation who was baffling to you and not
meeting your need and letting them meet your needs in the ways that they are
able to and that you are able to accept.
It is letting go in so many ways while still keeping the
person close in your heart and in your life. That being said being true to your
heart and seeking that need elsewhere simultaneously in ways that you need to
feel safe and loved.
Wabi Sabi.
Or your kids being loud and obnoxious and irritating and
instead of yelling or nagging-taking that irritability and turning it into big
and true breaths in and out of the body to calm your beating heart. And
thinking to yourself “I will miss these sounds one day” and then carrying on. Inviting those sounds more sweetly into your soul.
Wabi Sabi
I am letting a whole lot of Wabi Sabi into my life
lately. Letting go of a lot of baggage and opening myself up to new experiences
and new people vs trying to change some of the experiences and people into
something they may not be.
I am looking for things I need in my life and trying to
fulfill them in new and different ways.
Wabi Sabi
Try it on? You may like it too?
