I realized today what it is our family needs at this stage of our life.
I realized I hold the key to this door.
I am (semi) excited to open it.
It's what I need to build at this point of time. I need to create a high performing democratic team at home. We need to all become full participants on many issues.
Everything won't be a united decision but much of it will need to be decided on and agreed on by all members involved..
I realized yesterday gone are the days I can say "write a note to Santa and leave him some cookies". My kids are growing up, they need to be a part of what we do and how we do it......more and more often.
Next year we might all decide that Santa should have a vodka martini and some calamari to munch on...who knows what is ahead for this family?
Apparently not allowing texting friends from the cottage at midnight for a 14 year old is "infringing on his social life and human rights".
Ok..I can see that-propose another point of view. Vive la Liberte a Quebec!
So 2012 will be about taking this team to a whole new level. I am petrified as much as I am looking forward to the challenge.
Goes against every natural and intuitive bone in my body as a way of being.....but the same time know its the direction I have preparing for in the last year. Launch time is upcoming-it seems to be right around the corner.
There is fire in my belly called Ambiguity, Democracy and Collaboration. (I am sure trusting the process fits in there too somehow as far as I try to run I can't seem to hide from it too long).
So more green at work-more collaborative. More gossip and more of a complainer about workload . More shots of Baileys, more white wine and less milk with dessert at functions. More coffee stations chats and longer lunches.
Jealous of my development plan yet???
At home-less of my decisions and more of theirs. Santa getting drunk, smarties and popcorn allowed to be dropped and not picked up off floor, but fish picked up if less than 5 minutes and reindeer eating seafood. Oh ya ...texting girls at midnight and 14 year olds driving motorized all terrain vehicles alone (after midnight) perfectly normal right? Lattes served to 11 year old works too if that is what the team is rooting for!
All in all it will be an interesting year ahead . That is pretty much a given and guaranteed.
I may not be recognizable by the end of this all-but that's ok too. By mid year I have not committed yet to platinum blond or jet black hair-it's all on the table for discussion. Maybe my husband will decide (on his way to sell my wedding rings) to buy a bowl and put it on my head and cut around it to save a few extra dollars too. He also of course gets his say.
Toddler hood. Teenagers. Transitions. Transformations
Bring this on! It sounds.....absolutely terrifying!!!! Yikes!!!!!
So much easier to bark out commands and deliberate traditions. Are you sure we can't just stay this way with me in charge? Pretty Please?
