We are taught
in life not to judge..But sometimes you see things and it seems impossible not too.(well
I do anyways)
A lot about
the blogging world just really humiliates me as a blogger. I love having a
blog-but I honestly think blogging has a bad name for many good reasons. Many
people in real life who I tell I have a blog roll their eyes-and I get it.
If I did not
love writing so much or keeping a record of parenting-I would not have one..
First of
all-do people sit in front of their computers all day and read 100 blogs and
comment on 1000. Some blogs I read-within minutes of reading a comment, and then a comment
to a comment, and then a comment to a comment. OMG!
And then
there is the whole “troll business” on three blogs I am reading right now are
like “here is a troll visiting my blog and ruining my weekend!” someone else
asked what a troll is and the answer was basically’ "a commenter who brings
negativity to the blog (aka challenging you and your opinion!!!) OMG again.
It seems to
me that most the blogs I read (with many exceptions) especially the blogs where
it is hundreds of comments that all the bloggers are looking for is support and
agreement. I think this is ridiculous. Don't pour out your heart and soul if
you only want this-or block your comments if you are not intending or wanting to
hear people’s true opinions. I mean doesnt it get boring to read 500 comments of "way to go!!!!"
I love
reading the blogs but the comments I read really get to me. So annoying most of
the time. Sort of like snooping and reading my kids texts on phone-why do I do
it? Aggravates me to see my kid so openly displayed like that and mostly such unnecessary anxiety it causes-so why can’t I stop?
One girl on a
blog is getting married but her boyfriend broke up with her last year and she
very publically declared and discussed the breakup over three months a few
times a week on the blog. Now that they are back together and getting married of
course many of her followers have asked about the break up and if she is scared
will happen again. OF COURSE! Well she wrote an email the other day asking
people to respectfully refrain from basically remembering the breakup! C’mon!
I find this narrow
minded very naïve.
It is so
unlike real life -it is crazy.
Life is not a
box of chocolates. It is not all rainbows.
Why is it
that so many bloggers are looking for support and safety on a blog forum from
strangers? It is quite worrisome actually. Why have all your BFF’s on a blog? I
just simply don’t get it. Get out into the real word and speak!
All that to
say I don’t think I will ever belong fully to the blogging world.(clearly!!!) I like
reading many of them…I like writing mine. If ever I open mine up to comments I would
be expecting big debates all the time. This is the place internet troll people
would be welcome
Surprisingly that
I have kept this blog up so long….I actually paradoxically love it. It is a
great outlet and creative space for me. Will also be the basis of future
keynotes and books I write in the future (first book I contributed to manuscript
going to the interested publisher next week!!!!!!!!)
But keep it
real would you? And please stop bullying anybody who has a difference of
opinion than you do on your blog. Literally when someone is said to be a “troll”
another 500 comments about how unbelievable that troll is for challenging that
person. “Poor you!” How upsetting!” Your whole week must be ruined now and I
bet you can’t work!”
I am so glad
I don’t partake in this and so glad I don’t comment much on blogs (except my two
buddies blogs!). This could honestly be a full time job-in the world of crazy. i would only do this if I needed to as a job and to direct attention to my blog for my career. Then I would be a huge commenter if that was what I was paid to do.
And you know who the crazy one is
here: ME.
I should stop
reading it all if so annoyed. But like a good shot of rum, a good cup of coffee
or a good TV series..Addictive (ps I
hate rum and coffee but thought a good analogy)
To me the
highest level of human development is accepting feedback, criticism and
diversity. If a comment or two scares people I would like to see them face real
life!!! These people would not do well in my job I tell you. We don't go around calling people trolls-we welcome a healthy debate and praise them for the out of the box thinking and diversity!
