I tell the truth on this blog so I am not going to start lying to you now.
I have realized over the last few weeks that there seem to be two types of people in this world: People who LOVE Halloween or people who HATE Halloween.
Unfortunately for our three kids both Hubby and I fall into the latter.
I console myself by saying that there are so many things I do as a Mom and that he does as a Dad that nobody else I know do( even the best stay at home mothers). I try and tell myself that physiatrists offices are very unlikely filled to the brim with adults who feel depressed because their childhoods were not filled with the joys of pumpkin carvings. I try to tell myself that we cannot be good at everything, or even most things.
But I still just wish I liked Halloween and costume parties. What is wrong with me?
And yes yes we have done our due diligence for years and years. We used to leave work at 4:30 on Halloween, and we used to take the weekend prior and carve three pumpkins, and we used to take rolls and rolls of pictures of the costumes. We used to take full weekends and search for the perfect outfits, we used to carry heavy UNICEF boxes and make sure they had the perfect flashlights on them.
But we still never liked it one bit. But we pretended very well that we did.
Now we don’t even much pretend anymore,. My Protector and I actually left work late and went out to dinner a deux!!! (Of course my Mom was at home sharing in all the festivities with the kids)
So last night when I read all my fave mommy blogs I felt incredibly guilty and pathetic and lame. But that’s just life I guess right?
So this year we had Beauty as an amazing Justin Beiber and Bear as a Morph (can’t really explain what that is I only know it cost me over 40 bucks)
Chase was at home and gave out candy and then juts hung out with two friends at our place and asked us to leave them alone in house (that was a bit scary and spooky in and of itself it!). But he is growing up, and changing,and maturing. And I know by almost 15 yrs old-dressing up as a cow and carving a pumpkin certainly was not at the top of my bucket list either!!!
Thank goodness their friend’s parents are Halloween lovers and so they go over there and get the whole hoopla every year.
They also bring back our excitement when they come home and we sort through all the candy and we eat some and get super into that part.
And I do have one tradition that I adamantly stick to at Halloween and that is: making spaghetti for dinner and shortbread ghost Halloween cookies;. Even when nobody is home (even us) to eat it. We make that (ok my Mom or sitter does) and then someone eats part of it.
Lame. Lame Lame. Yes. Yes. Yes. I know.
Thank goodness I am really great at Easter, and Valentine’s Day and birthdays. I am somewhat good at Christmas and in all of these cases AMAZING at having 30 people over for any occasion at anytime and host about 20 events per year for friends and family.
(I feel I need to defend myself clearly even though you are not even attacking me)
As my friend and I spoke of the other day, is that maybe holidays are not as important to me because every weekend I really try and make a holiday? With the cottage, and our family time, and skiing and boating and our routines, and fun stuff, and planned stuff that is weaved into our family lives on a daily and weekly basis maybe I just don’t feel the need to put a huge emphasis on holidays?
But I still wish I liked Halloween.
(Although secretly I don’t really on any level understand why any adult would like it really).
But that is what makes the world turn right? Diversity. Everyone likes something different thank goodness.
So kids I do commit to this: If you are scarred and damaged by this attitude of both your parents, we will pay the psychiatrists bills, we will reflectively and actively listen to your concerns and we will force ourselves to change if it has been a really issue and go all our for Halloween with our grandkids and dress up as pirates and spice girls ok?
