Look at the illusion below
What do you see?
You probably read the word ME in brown, but...
when you look through ME you will see YOU !
Do you need to look again? (illusion seems not to show up at all on some computersL
When my son, sent me this illusion the other day by email (I love receiving email from him-such a cool way to communicate with kids) it made me stop and think. What came to mind was perception and the way we see things...and ultimately the way it affects both our communication and our relationships.
Last week one of my BFF’s and I were faced with a round of miscommunication. She had written something that I had interpreted in the completely wrong way. Her intention of what she had written was completely different than the way I perceived it. We saw the same words-but there meaning was completely different to each of us.
Lucky for both of us, we are so close that we confronted this with one another and simply cleared this up right away. We checked in and said “Hey that bothered me-and this is how I interpreted this” which led to “OMG-that was not the intended meaning at all!”
Both of us were secure enough in our relationship to ask these questions. Thankfully.
Sometimes I look at the world and think...it’s just a series of miscommunications really.
Makes me think of the expression I learnt from one of my teachers of transformation of “coming complete” . Always finish what you have started. Always say what is on your mind . Always check in for accuracy. Always tell the truth in the way that it occurs to you. Always share your occurring world with the other people around you as what may occur to you may not occur to them.
I am thankful that usually in most cases I come complete with the people around me. For the few instances that I have not done so (yet) in particular instances or relationships..I can feel the weight of this burden often. It’s heavy on me and it drags me down.
I am going to keep in mind this optical illusion that Bear sent me and let it serve as a reminder. What YOU see and what ME sees is not always the accuracy of what WE see as unit. The intricacies , the context and the complexities of the relationship we share between us , count for way more than what simply meets the eye.
