You know when someone is so good at something you have to
put the word (scary) in front to really make a point?
Well that is my Man.
He is scary capable.
At
pretty much everything. Scary.
I have known this for a long time, but when I am on
vacation and find myself with more time to ponder it becomes even more evident.
Like today-we went on this long sail. And he just knows
how to maneuver the boat perfectly. In high winds-through islands. He came to a
perfect and seamless stop. Woosh. Scary.
And he just fixes about everything: electricity,
plumbing, roofs..literally anything.
And he is like the best cook on earth. Totally
domesticated. Cleans better than molly maid. It is extremely scary.
And smart too! Scary smart.
And very very handsome.
A great Dad…as in scary great. Like if something ever
happened to him my kids’ lives would be over right away. Totally indispensable and
irreplaceable.
Anyways the sailing thing today just brought it all back.
His capability that is. And when you are with someone just so capable you kind
of just do nothing (aka take a beach pillow get in your bikini and lie on the
boat as he sails you away into the sunset and you fall asleep).
It’s a life of luxury I tell you. Especially on vacation.
Thank goodness I have something to add to the family here
and there in terms of competency.
I am strategic. And probably fairly emotionally intelligent.
I nurture relationships. That is pretty much it.
He is capable and competent in every other area.
( Oh ya I plan a lot too. Like our entire lives).
And he executes these plans with precision.
So like it or not-I am married to one hell of a capable
man. I often laugh when my Mom will make a comment like “maybe he should look
it up on google maps or might get lost “ or…” does he know how to get to this
or that place?”
Yes
of course he does. Trust me he has it all covered.
He could get us anywhere at any time and always. He could
save us in any emergency or crisis and have us saved on any island we are stranded
on. He would always save us and know exactly how.
And as I write this it occurs to me how safe this makes
me feel (and how lazy and dumb too!) I craved this type of competency from a man growing up. Coincidence I found it?? I think not.
I feel safe with this man. And above anything that is fundamentally important to my mere existence.
I let him lead the way as I silently and not so silently
boss him around all the time.
Being married to him is like having a compass in every
direction (food, safety, electricity, boating, fixing, cleaning, getting stains
out, arithmetic, iPods fixing, recycling, putting the garbage out, fabric softner,wine
corks)
You name it ..he does it.
See? I always knew vacations were good for marriages. Two
weeks ago I was ready to kill him.
So go now and stop your whining and
complaining and your obsessing and leave those children of yours at home and go
away for an adult only vacation with your man!!. Seriously I mean it…your kids
will thank you later (when there parents are still married) and you will see your husband
in a whole new capable kind of light.
Pick up the phone-call the Grandma or 411 for the closest
sleep-away camp..and get over yourself. For realJ
