This week has been a mess so far. Sleeping less, schedule
all over the place, technical issues on phones and computers, no time for
showers, ankle still sprained and confirmed “badly” sprained, meetings
cancelled, kids events, no downtime, high emotions, friends not texting back. A
mess.
And when I looked at why-it is mostly because I did not
follow the formulas I am supposed to follow to ensure calm, tranquility and
peace (mostly)
I am not reading before bed, I am not going to bed by
11:30am, I am not exercising I did not do Sunday night calendar so nobody knows
where to be when, my hubby and I are not cuddling on the couch and having downtime
together during the evenings, I am out too many times, I am doing to many
things. I am rushed. And stressed and trying to pack it all in after a great
vacation (which I am now paying for of course)
It’s like when I coach clients on their babies and kid’s
sleep. They follow the system for a few weeks or months and then get complacent.
“oh just tonight let her eat chocolate at 11pm, or juts tonight let her come
into my bed when she is whiny and
crabby, or just tonight I will bribe him with a gift if he goes to sleep
without complaining. Or just tonight I will let her play with the iPad in bed
to make her sleepy” Just tonight my ass!
How about do what you were told? Which works. It is literally
100 fail proof I promise unless your kid has a medical issue
“It’s
bedtime child. Go to your bed and be quiet unless there is a health issue or
emergency”
(And PS what time they fall asleep, how much they stay awake
looking at the ceiling, the singing in their room, quietly coloring etc. is
NONE OF YOUIR BUINESS! Your job is to go
and clean up, watch TV and allow your child to learn the important skill of
sleep.
Within three weeks magic all the sudden they are asleep
at 8pm. No crying. No calling. No whining. Why because it causes ZERO reaction
from you and therefore is no benefit.
I guarantee you 100 percent this has never ever failed in
the 10 yrs I have been preaching and teaching this.
Advice: STOP IT! Whatever you are doing-if it is not
working..just please stop it.
(Anyways back to the point (after coaching three clients
on sleep this week who derailed and are quickly back on track and sane again
and not screaming at their child every two minutes)…I think sleep is really top
of mind for me).
Anyways-this week I broke my formulas for myself for my
wellbeing and wound up cranky, irritable and unpleasant.
And in general I have been breaking my overall life
formulas too in work, parenting, marriage etc…YIKES!
My formula this year, 2014 is REEC
Read/Exercise/Eat well/sleep/ /. If I do those 4 things
well in the way I want and intend too-everything else goes smoothly other
things will too. There are many other things in a day I want to do too like
deliver, be productive, connect, be loving and affectionate , plan short terms
and long terms, but a lot of that stuff I don’t have to think about (or at least
don’t have to think much about anymore as I am getting better)
So today I got up and despite a whole lot of busyness and
craziness and went for a nice brisk walk
by the lake. For lunch even though I wanted to order that poutine as was out to
lunch with a friend who was..I ordered a healthy brochette and salad and no rice,
last night I tuckered down to bed after my late course with a good book and got
in 7.5 hrs of sleep.
And abracadabra I am back in business yet again.There world
is still spinning around me-things are chaotic-life is under control.
But me? I am centered.
People it’s all about our own personal formulas (a book
to be written on this one day!) Follow them or don’t. We each have different and unique ones -but the commonality is that they work. If they don't-they arent then considered a successful formula
It’s up to you after all!
And that is my coaching tip of the day!
