I am not sure that the recipe of this weekend was
necessarily conducive to a nice and fun relaxing birthday for my Protector. Actually
we were both quite sure it was not.
Last night we had to wait until ski club for Bear was
over ad so picked him up at school ta 10:30pm and arrived at the cottage in -30
weather at 12:15am. Would not have been so bad if we did not have to get up so
early the next day. It literally felt like we slept a few minutes and got up
again! Beauty had a competition a good hour away and Chase and Bear had their
job and course at the other mountain (half an hour apart so had to go twice) and
also be at Beautys competition. Basically a logistical nightmare. Then we knew that
we would have to rush out of the competition at 3pm-although all our friends
were there as a mountain that everyone skis at and a highlight of our year to
go there-but we had to to get Bear. Then we knew we would have to go back to
the mountain an hour later to get Chase. We had a quiet dinner planned for Hubby bday at least.
Then Chase through the bomb that all new instructors were
invited to a party at a ski monitors house. 25 mins away. And he needed to be
picked up at midnight. And he couldn’t have dinner with us as had to shower. We
certainly were not upset-of course he had to and should go but it’s hard to
have teenagers!
And guess what tomorrow is? Another competition and and
other instructor day. Sleep is very badly
needed. All that to say we headed out in the literally coldest day of the
friggin year and went to do all of this in the cold. We weren’t counting on
this being a great bday for Hubby as a birthday. We were grateful that we had a
much bigger celebration this week on Tuesday night where his sister and bro-in
law came and my Mom and his nephew who is 30 and his girlfriend. We had a great
evening with Hubby’s traditional Chinese food delivered. I made millefeuille
homemade and everyone loved it. We laughed and joked and had a super time-it
was honestly a great night. Much better than his real day we expected to be….
But the flow came…..the flow of the unexpected. Did I
open myself up to this more today after conversations about it this week that
changed my thinking? Did my opening up to it more allow my Guy to open up more It
was just despite all the busyness a super flowing day. And super and simply
nice.
So many nice texts for Hubby, tons and tons of people we
know and like a lot at the mountain who were toasting his bday, lots of nice interactions
me and hubbby laughing and giggling and having fun. Tonight the four of us with
one missing and just a simple bowl of chili I made with a Caesar salad and some
crusty bread and a warped cupcake with wax running down them from the candles.
A few funny gifts that were really quite lame but that’s what happens when you
have your bday near Xmas. I tried. Well maybe a plunger for the toilet and a
brush for the car were not exactly
what he wanted but I thought would be funny and cute along with a hoody I very
carefully chose and his fave chocolates.
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| Beauty;s BFF's (minus one who was competing too) who showered Hubby with love all day while Beauty raced (with her other BFF). They sang to him, hugged him, danced a birthday dance in the snow for him and kept hugging him and telling everyone it was his bday. We have seen these beautiful girls grow up before our eyes-forever-and they are precious gems in our lives . True sparkles. They made my husband's birthday so memorable and special. |
We ended up all laughing so so hard. For no real reason.
It was just fun. Just light and flowly and all around fun. Lots of laughing and
hugging. Flow. It was sooooo not what a
birthday should be-but on the other hand everything in the world it must be. It
was truly a wonderful day-for no real reason at all. I think it may have been
the beginning of something new and special. Who even knows eh?
And my husband. We all know I am so lucky. It’s a fact he
is unparalleled as a father in this family-I have truly never seen anything
like it. The fact my kids get to have him as thier Dad-is just magnificent as
far as I am concerned. And as my partner- he is the one I want to spend my life
with and grow old with –even after our more than 20 yrs. together now and what
feels like a lifetime of ups and downs. He is my coma guy and always has been.
And finding a coma guy? Who’s also smart, good looking and stable is not that
easy people. He’s the one.
So today we toast my Guy. To a new beginning of
something. Something different and something good..maybe.To a man who last year
I wrote over 50 great things about who was not
with us on his birthday..and to this year I did not even write a card
to…and who is here cozily by our sides.
A card could never ever say what is on my mind and in my
thoughts for this year. Neither the good nor the bad. Words will never capture
it enough. Maybe a book one day will do 2104 justice.
THANK YOU. For saving my soul. And for rescuing your
own. Thank you from our children and our future grandchildren. Thank you for raising
the bar on integrity and courage and for never ever again having to teach our
children anything about life from a book or an example, or a TV show or another
person. They got to be taught by you. What a precious lesson to learn so young
eh?
Because we all?....We got to see it happen-right before our
very eyes. We got to see courage and integrity and strength and resilience. We
got to live it. Alongside you. We got forced to bring our best selves to the
table and learn the lesson that we are all capable and strong as a family
We all got to be there. And we still are. Well get to stick around and see another day together, a year, a lifetime. We don’t get to be perfect-far from it-but we get to love each other imperfectly many minutes and hours of many days.
We get to say we didn’t give up. And we get to say we
more than made it through.
You did this for us.
You.
Happy Birthday my love.
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| Where we will be back to one day. Hopefully sooner than later. Miss it!!! |
